I Thought True Love Was A Myth — And Then I Met You

I used to be the girl who scoffed at anything that was romantic. In fact, I even accepted that I was going to be alone for the rest of my life. But now that you’re in my life, I’m ready to admit that I was wrong — true love does exist, and I’ve finally found it with you.

  1. It feels so easy. When I look at my friends’ relationships, they always seem to have something to complain about or some sort of “problem” to discuss. I always thought that that’s how relationships were supposed to be, but you’ve shown me that it doesn’t have to be that way. Love is meant to be easy, and I never believed it until I experienced for myself.
  2. I’m not afraid to tell you things. I’ve never felt so safe to bear my secrets. If something is bothering me or there’s something important I need to tell you, it just comes right out of my mouth with no hesitation. In the past, I would be afraid of being judged when admitting things to my partner, but I don’t feel that with you for some reason. Communication is what makes or break a relationship, and our communication seems to be effortless.
  3. I really feel like I can trust you. I never worry about “where you’ve been” or question what you say because I completely and fully trust you. I’ve never felt like this before towards a partner, and I think it’s because you reassure me. I don’t get that vibe that I should keep my eye on you. You always act in congruence to what you say, so there’s no reason for me to ever doubt you.
  4. “Cheesy” moments feel sincere. You know those cringe-worthy moments in those popular rom-coms? People kissing in the rain, feeding each other chocolates, slow dancing in the living room to an old record — in the past, I would turn my nose up at these things, but now I only want to do all of them with you.
  5. I actually want to put work into the relationship. I used to feel entitled to a perfect relationship. For example, if things weren’t working out, I would get upset and wonder why “this always happens to me”. When we have slip-ups, I don’t get bitter about it. I’m actually excited to figure it out with you because I know that you are open and responsive to the feedback. We’re strong enough to get over the hurdles that will inevitably be thrown our way, and it’s only making us grow stronger in our love.
  6. I feel safe being vulnerable around you. I can cry in front of you and know you will understand 100 percent. I used to hold back my emotions in fear that my partner wouldn’t understand or would make fun of me for them. I’ve never felt safer to just be myself because I know you won’t judge me for it.
  7. I actually see a future with you. Walking by a wedding dress shop used to give me anxiety, but now it makes me smile. I was always the girl who would defend her position on why marriage is a waste of time and money and will only end in divorce. I was against marriage all my life — as a little kid, I never put a towel over my head and pretended to be a veiled bride, and as an adult, I was so sure I would never be married. However, after meeting you, I’m starting to eat my words.
  8. We never run out of things to talk about. Every day we seem to discover something new through our conversations. What I love about you is that you are open-minded and don’t see things in black and white. Chatting with you about anything and everything never gets boring and I don’t think it ever will.
  9. There’s no drama. Maybe it’s because relationships are always so messy on TV, but I always expected things to eventually “blow up”. I could never just accept that a happy relationship IS possible and doesn’t have to involve constant fighting and disagreements. Being with you has shown me that it’s possible to have a happy, fulfilling relationship that doesn’t have to eventually burn to the ground in a pit of flames.
  10. We had a strong connection since day one. I don’t want to say that it was love at first sight, but I just remember thinking “wow” when I saw you. I was in awe and had this deep feeling that I was supposed to be with you. It was like an instant connection, and I’ve never felt that before with anyone. I knew I had to talk to you, and boy am I glad I did.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.