It’s Time To Stop Dating People You Don’t See A Future With

You might think dating people short-term is better than nothing, but you’ll just feel worse in the end. You’re looking for someone to spend your life with, not just the next few weeks, until you get tired of them. Skip the people who are obviously not a good match and keep your heart open for the one you can actually see a future with.

  1. What’s the point? There isn’t one. You might tell yourself it’s better than sitting home alone, but ice cream and Netflix is better. You dread the date, you can’t stand the person, yet you go out anyway. No, there’s absolutely no reason to do it.
  2. Single’s better than that torture. Dating someone you don’t really like is a special kind of torture. You pretend to give a damn, but it’s obvious you don’t. Believe it or not, you’d be happier single than torturing yourself like this on a regular basis.
  3. You’re just wasting everyone’s time. You’re not just wasting your time, you’re wasting the other person’s time, too. For all you know, they might like you and you’re just leading them on. Stop it already. End this charade before it goes any further. Better yet, just say no to start with.
  4. You’ll hate dating even more. Do you groan every time you have to get ready for a new first date? Imagine if all you’re doing is dating people you’re not really interested in. Suddenly, you hate dating 10x more and no one can stand to be around you on date days.
  5. You could miss the right people. While you’re busy dating anyone and everyone, even those you don’t like, you’re probably missing out on all the right ones. After all, what decent person is going to ask you out while you’re out with someone else?
  6. You don’t even give them a chance. You go into the date knowing it’s not going to work. Sure, you might drag it out for your own personal reasons, but you’ve already judged them and found them not worthy. What’s the point of dating someone when they never stood a chance? And no, revenge is not a good reason.
  7. It’s not right using people. That’s right. You’re just using these people to help you avoid feeling lonely or to seem like you’re overly busy and popular. How would you feel if you were on the other side? It’d probably piss you off and sting like hell.
  8. Do something better with your time. Get a hobby already. Dating a bunch of people you’re not into is just a major waste. Learn a new language, take dance classes (you’d be surprised at all the hot singles there) or try out yoga in the park. Just do something other than going on one miserable, pointless date after another.
  9. It’s not going to magically work. You didn’t like them on date one or date five or date 20. What makes you think things will magically work out if you keep trying? It’s admirable that you want to put that much work in, but if there’s no attraction or connection after one or two dates, just let it go already.
  10. You don’t owe anyone a date. Don’t let friends and family guilt you into dating anyone you don’t like. The same goes with someone you’re not interested in asking you out. At no point in time do you owe people a date. All you’re doing is wasting your valuable time.
  11. You’re killing your confidence. Every time you finally give up and break things off, you feel less confident. You keep wondering why you can’t find someone you do like. The real reason – you’re spending too much damn time on the wrong people on purpose. Being patient might just boost your confidence and lead to much better dates.
  12. You’ll end up trying to fake love. This dating tactic is common for those who are addicted to love. You’re not interested in them, but you’re so addicted to the idea of being in love that you try to fake it. It’s all about creating an illusion, but that illusion shatters into millions of pieces when you least expect it.
  13. No one wants that many failed relationships. Everyone goes on bad dates sometimes, but continuing to date someone you don’t like will just lead to one failed relationship after another. Do you really want dozens of failed romances in just a few years? No, you don’t.
  14. Don’t you deserve to date someone you do like? In case you haven’t realized it yet, you deserve to love and be loved. You deserve great dates and meeting new people who you have a real connection with. Sure, it’ll take time and you might not go on as many dates, but at least, you might actually enjoy yourself.
Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.