It’s Time To Stop Texting That Douchebag You Like

It’s Time To Stop Texting That Douchebag You Like ©iStock/Aleksandar Nakic

Erase the message you were about to send, delete his number from your contact list, and put down your phone. If you have any self-respect, then you’ll realize that it’s about time to stop texting that douchebag you like.

  1. Nothing good can come from it. If he actually answers you, what’s the best thing that could happen? Even if he invites you over, you know you’ll end up having a one-night stand and then won’t hear from him again for weeks. That’ll only make your feelings for him stronger.
  2. You shouldn’t be the only one putting in effort. You shouldn’t be the one texting him first, asking him about his day, and struggling to continue the conversation when he replies with “k.” If you’re the only one putting in effort, you’re letting yourself get screwed over.
  3. The waiting game isn’t any fun. Do you really want to spend the next hour staring at your phone, jumping whenever you receive a new text from your mother, because it could be him? Don’t put yourself through that type of modern torture. If he wanted to talk to you, he’d initiate the conversation for a change.
  4. There are better people to text. Text the old friend you’ve been meaning to catch up with. Text the grandparent who’s trying to be hip with their slang and emojis. Text anyone who isn’t him.
  5. Your entire relationship shouldn’t exist over text. If you actually mattered to him, you’d be seeing each other in person instead of having all of your conversations through a phone. If things aren’t going farther than texting, even though you’ve been crushing on him for months, then you two aren’t meant to become a couple.
  6. You don’t want to fool yourself. If you invest too much of your time with him, then you’ll trick yourself into believing he’s a decent dude. But you don’t want to fool yourself into thinking you have a chance with him, or that he’s actually worth your time and effort. He’s not.
  7. He’s a distraction you don’t need. The thought of him is taking you away from work, from your friends, and from other boys. Don’t let yourself become so obsessed with the idea of him that you neglect the other parts of your life. He’s not the man you’re imagining in your mind, anyway.
  8. You’ll stop getting crap from your friends. Your girlfriends keep telling you to stop wasting your time texting him, because they can see the situation logically and know what’s best for you. If you actually take their advice, then you won’t have to put up with their nagging anymore. Isn’t that reward enough?
  9. He doesn’t deserve to hear from you. He’s an douchebag. He shouldn’t expect amazing girls to fall all over him when he treats them like crap. Teach him the lesson he deserves to learn by cutting him out of your life completely.
  10. You’re better than that. Why are you still talking to him? You know you deserve better, so it’s time to raise your standards. If you keep them low, you’ll just end up with another douchebag like him.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.