10 Signs It’s Time To Walk Away From Your Boyfriend And Your Relationship

You’ve been in a relationship with a guy for a while and while it’s not the worst situation, it’s definitely far from the best. Why are you still with him? If any of these 10 things are happening in your relationship, it’s time to walk away.

  1. You “put up with” instead of “enjoy” things. Maybe you remember a time in your relationship when you used to enjoy the way your partner made you laugh or how you used to be able to talk all night without getting bored. Now it’s like you have to tolerate all his traits and quirks, and time with him isn’t as much fun as it used to be. It’s really frustrating.
  2. You don’t speak your mind. When did you start biting your tongue and stop talking about your thoughts and opinions? If you’re being censored in your relationship because the guy you’re dating acts like he knows best about everything, you’re in a toxic relationship.
  3. You don’t have your own life anymore. Whatever happened to your dreams, goals, friends, and hobbies? If they’re seriously lacking in your life, then maybe your relationship is to blame for that. If you’ve made your relationship such a priority that you don’t have any time or energy for things that used to be important to you, then you’re not living your happiest life. You’re cutting yourself down to size for your partner.
  4. You love him but you’re not really that happy. You love your partner without a doubt, but you’re not happy most of the time. Perhaps your friends can even see how you’ve changed (and maybe that’s one of the reasons why you don’t like to spend time with them anymore). But ask yourself: is love worth fighting for if it doesn’t even make you happy? You know the answer to that one.
  5. You dream of being single a lot. You regularly catch yourself dreaming of being on your own again. Maybe you’re jealous of your single friends and wish you had the freedom that they often take for granted. Maybe you’ve played out your breakup in your imagination so many times that you’re almost willing it. Clearly, your heart’s no longer in this relationship.
  6. You’re in a relationship rut. There is such a thing as a relationship rut in which the spark goes away for a while and you and your partner have to try to get it back. But there’s also the kind of relationship rut where you’ve stopped progressing and growing. You and your partner are in the same spot and it’s like there’s no future to look forward to. The former’s normal, the latter is toxic.
  7. You’re worse instead of better. You should be with someone who makes you feel like you can grow and become the best version of yourself. If you find that you’re becoming the type of person you hate being around because you’re always feeling negative and irritable, that’s a huge sign that you need to get out of the relationship before it makes you lose yourself even more.
  8. You’re always making excuses for him. If you find yourself saying that he’s just being an a-hole because he’s going through a rough patch (a rough patch that never ends, FYI), you’re in serious denial about him. You’re trying to believe that you can turn your partner into the perfect person you need, but you’re not facing who he really is. If he’s right for you, you won’t have to make excuses for why he’s such a jerk.
  9. You’re hoping things will get better, but they never do. You can wish that things will get better in your relationship but it’s not going to magically happen. You and your partner have to put in the effort to make things improve, otherwise, they won’t. If your partner lacks the commitment that’s required to make your relationship better, then clearly he’s the wrong person for you.
  10. Your partner doesn’t see you. You’re being taken for granted. No matter what you do for your partner, it never feels like enough. It’s generally a thankless job that never makes him happy or grateful to have you in his life. What a loser. Being taken for granted is a sign that the person’s disrespecting you, and that’s all the push you need to walk away and find someone who will appreciate all the awesomeness that you are.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.