Tips From A Guy: How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You

While there’s no way you can manufacture feelings that don’t exist, guys are pretty simple creatures and getting one of us to fall in love with you isn’t all that complicated. It’s just a matter of knowing what to do. While you should never pretend to be someone you’re not or overstep boundaries, here are a few things you can do to encourage his feelings for you to get a little deeper.

  1. Just be nice. I think people underestimate how far niceness can get you. I mean, who doesn’t want to be around someone who’s kind to everyone they encounter and always in a good mood? Nice people are more enjoyable to be around and somehow seem more attractive than people who are in a foul mood.
  2. Look your best. Sorry, but most men are shallow, so the way you look will be important, at least early on. There’s just no getting around it. If you want a guy to fall for you, always try to look your best around him without making it obvious that you put a lot of effort into it. I know that doesn’t make a lot of sense and is hard to pull off, but that’s the best way to grab a guy’s attention and start the process of getting him to love you.
  3. Be a good listener. Ladies, don’t you want a guy who hears you out and actually pays attention to what you have to say? Well, it goes both ways. Guys are also more likely to fall in love with someone who actually listens to them instead of thinking about what they’re going to say next. When he sees that you’re hanging on his every word, he’ll be flattered and more likely to fall for you.
  4. Laugh (a lot). Guys always strive to make women laugh. It makes us feel special. It’s so much easier to fall for someone who laughs and smiles a lot. That’s especially true when we’re the reason why you’re snorting and can’t catch your breath because you’re laughing so hard. It massages our egos and makes us feel special, which is always a good thing.
  5. Show him the ways you’re special. Okay, so a lot of people like the same kind of music and food and it’s not that hard to find a woman with those kinds of shared interests. If you want a guy to fall in love with you, find a way to distinguish yourself from everyone else he’s ever met. It almost doesn’t matter how you do it. Just show him that you’re one in a million. If you can show him that you’re special in some way, he’ll notice and want to be around you more, and he’ll be way less likely to ever want to let you go.
  6. Be selfless. Little gestures can make a big difference. Don’t you ladies want a guy who pays attention to the little things? When you perform little selfless acts for him, he’ll take notice. That’s an important step in getting him to love and admire you. It may sound like a long journey, but a lot of little things can get a guy to fall for you.
  7. Connect intellectually. I know I said that guys like a pretty face, which is important, but it’s not everything. To fall in love with someone, most guys also need someone who they find smart and interesting to talk to. If you can connect on an intellectual level and make him enjoy talking to you, it’s only a matter of time until he falls for you.
  8. Go on adventures together. Early in a relationship when you’re trying to get him to fall for you, the best thing you can do is keep things exciting. Try new things together to show him that you’re unpredictable and adventurous. Guys hate the idea of getting stuck in a lifeless relationship that’s become a pattern of routine. When you embark on adventures with him, not only will you make great memories together but you’ll make him never want to go on one without you.
  9. Take care of him. If he’s sick or going through a tough time, be there for him. Yes, some guys will need space sometimes, but everyone needs someone to take care of them. Without getting too clingy, just be supportive and serve as a shoulder he can lean on. It’s in the rough moments of life that a man’s heart is the most open and able to fall in love with someone who is there for him.
  10. Be open with him. Plain and simple, a guy can’t fall in love with you if he doesn’t know the real you. Don’t try to be someone that you’re not; just be yourself and be open about it. If you’re willing to share personal things and act like you have nothing to hide, most guys will respond positively. Most of us find it interesting when you peel off the layers of your personality and show different sides of yourself. It will at least make him interested to hear more, and if he likes what he hears, he might just fall in love with you.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.