I’m Tired Of Looking For Love—I Need Mr. Right To Start Looking For Me

I’ve had my fun being single but I’ve been over it for quite some time. I wanted a real relationship so I ventured out and started looking for love, but guess what? I didn’t find it anywhere. I’m sick of being single, yeah, but I’m even more tired of looking for Mr. Right.

  1. I don’t want to take a break from dating. I do want to take a break from looking for “The One,” though. I’m ready for a real relationship. I just don’t want to search for that perfect one anymore. I’m completely invested in settling down with one guy, but as far as meeting him, he’s going to have to come to me because I’m tired of looking.
  2. If it’s meant to be, it’ll all work itself out in the end. I’m just going to let whatever is supposed to happen, happen. Maybe by looking for love I’ve been messing up my own destiny all along. I believe in fate, so why not loosen the reigns a little bit and see if what my love life really needed was for me to lose control?
  3. It’s time for Mr. Right to start looking for me. It’s starting to feel like I’m doing more than my fair share of the work. Maybe if I stop looking for Mr. Right, he’ll finally come and find me. I’ve spent plenty of time on guys who were a total waste on the off chance they were Prince Charming in disguise. Nah. When this knight in shining armor is ready to get off his white horse, I’ll be right here living the rest of my life.
  4. I believe in “The One.” I do think that there’s a man out there that I’m actually meant to be with—not someone who’s perfect, but someone’s who’s perfect for me. Because I fully believe in this fairytale notion, I don’t think I should have to try this hard just to find the guy for me. At the end of the day, I have faith that if we’re truly meant to be, we’ll find each other somehow.
  5. I’m sick of spending money. Going out every weekend and even some weekdays too is expensive AF. I’m trying to save and budget for my future, not waste my funds on a bar tab. I love hanging with my friends but coffee shops, bars, and restaurants add up, and those seem to be the places where people meet. I just want to make dinner at home and drink my own alcohol instead of buying a glass of wine at a bar for the price of an entire bottle at a store.
  6. I’m over the bar scene. It’s not just about the money, though. I’m tired of going out to bars in general. They’re loud, not good for conversation, and all about drinking. Don’t get me wrong, I love my wine, but as a homebody, I’d rather just have a couple of friends over and stay in. Unfortunately, it’s pretty unlikely that the man of my dreams will just show up on my doorstep.
  7. I want to have nights out with the girls that aren’t about guys. When did my life become all about the goal of finding a man? I miss the days when I went out with my girls on the pretense of just having fun. I don’t want to make the night all about being each other’s wing women or hoping some guy sends us a drink anymore. I want girls nights to be just about hanging with the girls again.
  8. There’s so much more to my life than my love life. I have amazing friends to keep me company, a loving family to support, hobbies to keep me entertained, and a career that I’m truly passionate about. I’m busy AF, to say the least, and I’m sick of trying to constantly find the time to incorporate looking for love into my schedule. When the right guy comes along I’ll make time for him, but until then, I think I need to just focus on me.
  9. I want a boyfriend but I shouldn’t have to jump through hoops to find one. Honestly, I know love isn’t exactly easy, but I don’t think finding it should be this hard. I’m an amazing girl and all I want is to find a guy who can appreciate that and who I think is amazing too. I want a relationship and I’ll work hard when I finally find the right one but I’m sick of putting this much effort into finding a guy and always ending up utterly single in the end.
  10. Putting so much energy into looking for Mr. Right is too damn exhausting. The fact is, my life is busy AF on its own and adding looking for a life partner to the list has just become too much for me. I want to find the right guy but I don’t think the journey to finding him should be this unpleasant. At the end of the day, I feel burned out, and while I’m sick of being single, maybe taking time off from actively looking for love is exactly what I need.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.