To The Guy Who Kept Me On The Backburner

To The Guy Who Kept Me On The Backburner ©iStock/Grinvalds

I’ve been on the back burner for a while now, but I’m finally over it. I was hoping for more, but I finally realize that will never happen. I’m walking away from being an option to find someone who will make me his choice, but there are a few things I want you to know:

  1. I’ve given you so many chances to see the light.There have been many to give me the importance in your life that I deserve. You gave me just enough to keep me reeled in but never enough to make me happy. I held on to a hope that you would make me a priority eventually, but that was a mistake.
  2. In waiting for you, I realized I want more.The time that I’ve spent on your backburner hasn’t been entirely useless. I’ve continued to explore my own options and while I always hoped that you would come around, I realized through my own trial and error that I’m no longer the person I used to be. I want more than you.
  3. I’m tired of the constant excuses.You always seem to have an excuse as to why we can’t be together, but enough of that BS. I want you to know that I finally have the final answer — it’s that I don’t want you anymore.
  4. It’s not fair for anyone to wait this long.I tried to stick it out, but then I realized it was pointless. I don’t understand why you’ve kept me around for so long. Maybe it was for your own ego, or maybe it was fear of being completely without options; whatever the reason, it’s not fun for me anymore, and I refuse to wait any longer.
  5. I’m perfect for someone else. If the reason you’ve left me in this constant state of limbo is that you had doubts about me, you should have said so. I may not be right for you, but I’m perfect for someone else, and he’ll love me just as I am.
  6. It’s my fault, too. This isn’t all on you; it’s on me, too. I should’ve known better than to put myself in this position, but the hold you had on me for too long was strong, and I’ve only just escaped it. I really did love you, and I stupidly daydreamed a happily ever after that would never happen. I accept full responsibility for my heart’s inability to give up for so long.
  7. I deserve someone who wants me and shows it.I deserve someone who’s going to be happy to have my affections and return them. I don’t deserve to be the back-up plan or the last resort, and I know better now than to care so deeply for someone who would never care the same way back. I deserve someone who’s as excited about me as I was about you.
  8. You won’t have the option to change your mind anymore. You’ve had the luxury of always having me readily available for whenever your life wasn’t going swimmingly for too long. I’ve been there for your high points and by your side for the lows, too. It pains me to say it, but I’m finally releasing myself from your grip, and the next time you search my face for the answers, you won’t see the same face anymore.
  9. Goodbye. This is the end, and I’ve never been happier.