I’m A Total Catch But None Of The Guys I Like Seem To See That

I’m not perfect, of course, but I do know that I’m a total catch. I’ve got a good head on my shoulders, an incredible sense of humor, and although I’m no Instagram model, I’m definitely easy on the eyes. So why aren’t the guys I’m into seeing that? It’s downright frustrating knowing that I’m as awesome as I am but that none of the guys I’m interested in can see it.

  1. Maybe I’m just too awesome. These guys must be fools who think they couldn’t possibly live up to my high expectations because I’m just that amazing. They meet me and they know deep down that there will be no good reason to ever have to break it off with me because I’m down to earth, fun to be around, and all the other fun stuff that makes up an excellent girlfriend. Instead of getting wrapped up in the inevitable relationship with the great girl they just met, they decide to run before they catch feelings. It’s understandable, though, because they’ll definitely end up falling in love with me.
  2. They’re obviously idiots. Not all the lightbulbs in the box can shine as brightly as I do. I don’t judge them for not being smart enough to see what I have to offer, but it bugs me just the same. I mean, what else could it be? I’m the bee’s knees and most every person I meet loves me, so why wouldn’t they? Simple — it’s because they’re not smart enough to know that they do.
  3. They assume I won’t like them back. Because of all my great attributes, a lot of guys will just assume that I couldn’t possibly develop any feelings for them. A little insecurity and an unwillingness to compromise their egos could be a huge reason why a lot of these guys want to date me but refuse to do so.
  4. Emotional maturity is rare. The old saying “it takes one to know one” can be pretty true when it comes to dating and relationships. I’ve got my emotions in check and I know what I’m looking for and the kind of woman I need to be to get it. But if the guy I’m interested in has the emotional maturity of a Brussels sprout, then he’s going to be straight up blind to how amazing I am.
  5. I’m probably going for the wrong guys. Just because a guy I like could see himself in a relationship with me doesn’t mean that at this point in his life he wants to settle down. If all he’s looking for is sex because he travels a lot for work or just isn’t ready to take that step into Couple Town, then no amount of awesome is going to be able to change that.
  6. They’re dating with too much baggage. A guy that isn’t able to see how great I am clearly has one too many skeletons in his closet blocking his vision to the outside world. He’s not over his ex, his heart got broken by a she-devil, whatever the case may be — he’s just not ready to clean out the cobwebs that have grown over his heart, so he pushes me away because of a fragile ego.
  7. They’ve got their faces glued to their phones. Like most people nowadays, these guys who aren’t able to see how wonderful I am are literally nose deep in dating apps. Even if we end up meeting on a dating app, as soon as someone else swipes right, it’s done. It’s like they’re always looking for something better not knowing that they’ve already found the best.
  8. They can’t stay focused. Some guys nowadays have the attention span of an untrained puppy in a dog park. They head towards the first shiny thing they see and then bam! Out of left field, there’s something else just as intriguing. They simply don’t have the ability to pick one great woman and start a real relationship because they’re too busy bobble-heading through life, trying to smell every single rose at the same time.
  9. They’re impatient. Some guys can be as hopelessly romantic as women, and personally, I think that’s a great thing. It can also be a downfall, though, because if things aren’t resembling some sort of Katherine Heigl movie, the guy will just assume we don’t have a connection. If a date is happening at all, there’s obviously a connection, so they’re just trying to rush to the unrealistic stuff before enjoying the journey there.
  10. They don’t know what they want. On the off chance they’re all-around great, smart and all around amazing guys — because yes, they do exist — they could just have no idea what they’re looking for and don’t want to lead me on or hurt my feelings in the process. It’s not ideal, but damn, I respect it.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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