You’re A Total Catch, So Why Aren’t Guys Falling For You?

You’re not some unattractive hag that can’t keep a guy around. There are reasonable explanations behind your single status that have nothing to do with the size of your breasts or brain. Here’s the real reason why no one’s falling in love with you:

  1. You think you’re a 1 when you’re really a 10. If you have low standards, you’re going to go after men who aren’t capable of loving themselves, let alone loving you. That’s why you need to raise your self-esteem. The higher you think of yourself, the faster you’ll find love.
  2. You act like you don’t give AF about relationships. Pretending that you hate the idea of monogamy is a coping mechanism, but it’s an unhealthy one. If you bash relationships, just to feel better about your single status, you’re setting yourself up for failure. You won’t find love unless you’re willing to admit you’re looking for it.
  3. You’re trying to be the woman you think men want. Don’t pretend that you’re “cool girl” by acting like you love beer and football when you actually hate it. There isn’t one specific type of woman that every man in the universe wants, so your plan is going to backfire on you. It’s best to just be yourself from the start.
  4. You assume every man is a player. When you hear all of your friends complaining about their boyfriends, it’s easy to believe that there aren’t any good men out there. Of course, that’s complete and utter BS. There are decent guys out there, but you’ll never give them a chance if you automatically assume they are a player.
  5. You haven’t found yourself yet. If you don’t know who the hell you are, how could you know what you want? You need to do some soul searching if you want to find your soul mate.
  6. No one knows you’re looking for a relationship. It doesn’t matter how many men you hook up with, because if no one knows you’re looking for a serious relationship, you’re not going to end up in one. So when you find a good guy, make your intentions clear.
  7. You’re only looking for love online. Signing up for several dating sites doesn’t mean you can forget about looking for love in the “real world.” If you’re too busy staring at your phone while you’re out in public, you’ll miss out on the flesh and blood men that are standing right in front of you. Even though it’s the 21st century, you can still find a boyfriend the old fashioned way, you know.
  8.  You’ve never seen a healthy relationship before. If it seems like everyone around you has gotten divorced, it’ll be easy for you to fall into unhealthy dating habits, because you’ll think that the couples you know are the norm. That’s why you need to remember that you can break with tradition.
  9. You give up when things get hard. If you cut contact with a man after he takes a little too long to respond to your text messages, how are you ever going to handle the huge conflicts that come with long-term relationships? If you want to be loved, you need to be ready to handle confrontation.
  10. You don’t think you deserve love. Maybe you have low self-esteem, or maybe you’ve done some bad things you think you deserve to be punished for. Either way, you’re wrong. You deserve to be loved deeply, but you have to believe that before it will happen.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.