Toxic Thoughts Women Should Banish For Good

Toxic Thoughts Women Should Banish For Good ©iStock/alexey_ds

As women, we tend to be way too negative when it comes to our internal dialogues. There are some toxic phrases that you need to delete from your vocabulary if you want to have a healthy view of the world. Otherwise, you’re going to end up living a life you hate. You might even end up hating yourself. Here are 10 thoughts to banish for good:

  1. “I wish I looked more like her.” Even though you wish you had your best friend’s hair, she probably wishes that she had your eyes. Everyone has their flaws, and you need to learn how to be comfortable with yours, because it’s unhealthy to compare yourself to every woman you see.
  2. “It’s good enough.” It doesn’t matter if you’re talking about your job, your boyfriend, or your apartment. You should never settle for “good enough” when there’s something better out there waiting for you.
  3. “I don’t need anyone.” No, you don’t need a boyfriend to feel complete. Of course, if you want to be happy, you need some friends and family by your side to keep you chipper.
  4. “I’ll do it tomorrow.” Don’t keep putting off the things you could get done today. If you always claim that you’re going to start your diet tomorrow, then it’ll never actually happen.
  5. “I can’t do it.” High expectations and unrealistic expectations don’t go hand in hand. You’re capable of achieving more than you think, so don’t miss out on an amazing opportunity out of fear of failure.
  6. “I’m fine.” Don’t lie to yourself by pretending you’re okay when you’re not. It’s healthier to explore the reasons why you’re upset, so you’ll be able to deal with them before they bottle up and cause you to go crazy.
  7. “I don’t deserve happiness.” It doesn’t matter what you’ve done in the past, because you deserve happiness in the present and the future. Everyone does.
  8. “He only did it, because he loves me.” If a man hits you or orders you around, don’t justify his actions. If he really loved you, then he wouldn’t do anything to damage you, physically or emotionally.
  9. “The timing needs to be right.” Don’t wait for the right time to make a move on your crush or to have a baby. You’ll always have an excuse for putting off your goals, but if you want something, go ahead and get it done.
  10. “I hate my life.” No matter how bad your situation gets, there are pieces of your life that you should be thankful for. Don’t forget to appreciate all of the great things that you have, because they could disappear tomorrow.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.