Treat Me The Way You Expect Me To Treat You

Treat Me The Way You Expect Me To Treat You ©iStock/BraunS

Forget about all the BS dating rules you’ve learned over the years. The only guideline you should follow is the “golden rule”: you should treat me the way you expect me to treat you. It really is as simple as that.

  1. Don’t be a hypocrite. You shouldn’t get pissed at me for ignoring your texts when you do the exact same thing. You shouldn’t get annoyed when I hide my feelings, even though you never tell me how you’re feeling, either. Makes sense, don’t you think?
  2. You don’t get special treatment. You don’t deserve to have more orgasms or do less housework, just because you’re a man. If you want me to go down on you more, then you should go down on me more. I’m not going to give you what you want if you never give me what I want.
  3. If you can’t handle it, neither can I. Don’t think you could handle watching me flirt with some sexy stranger at the bar? Then you shouldn’t do it, either. Despite our different genders, we tend to get pissed off at the same sketchy things.
  4. We’re meant to be equals. If you don’t think we’re on the same level, then you should go find yourself a new girlfriend. I’m not willing to waste my time with a guy who looks down on me. We should be able to see eye to eye.
  5. You get what you give. If you’re a good boyfriend, then it’ll encourage me to be a good girlfriend. But if you treat me like crap, then I have no problem treating you like crap, too. I’m not going to put my full effort into our relationship if you won’t even put in half.
  6. You should want to treat me well. If you actually gave a damn about me, then you’d do everything you could to make me feel comfortable. You’d treat me with respect, help me around the house, and give me the best sex of my life. You would never dream of using or abusing me.
  7. Have realistic expectations. Don’t expect me to wear something sexy every night and cook you breakfast every morning when you could never do the same thing. I’m not some magical goddess who can grant your every wish. I’m human, too, so don’t have unrealistic expectations for me.
  8. Anger isn’t an excuse. I don’t care if you just lost your job or if I accidentally deleted something important off of the DVR. You should still treat me well, even when you’re pissed off. You wouldn’t want me to treat you like crap whenever I had a rough day, would you?
  9. Relationships require give and take. Relationships will wither without compromise, respect, and honesty. If you don’t treat me well, then we’re headed downhill and we’re never going to be able to make it back up again.
  10. I deserve to be treated well. I’m not an angel, but I am a pretty amazing girlfriend. After everything I’ve done for you, I deserve to be treated well in return. It’s only fair.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.