I Tried Visualization To Attract The Perfect Relationship & I Can’t Believe It Worked

I always thought the ideas of visualization and manifest destiny—will it into existence basically—were a bunch of BS. It wasn’t until I actually tried this law of attraction thing that I saw how magical my life could be.

  1. The key is to be consistent with it. I made sure to remind myself every day what my goal was—to attract an amazing relationship—and the more I forced myself to believe it would happen, the faster things started to manifest. I would start off every day by writing in my journal about what I intended to attract that day and I regularly revisited my main goal. Before I knew it, I’d achieved it.
  2. I got pretty much exactly what I wanted. I read that it’s important to be very specific and thorough with what you want and to not make compromises. If you’re making compromises, apparently you aren’t being confident in your desires and you’ll block it from entering your life. I wanted to find someone who’s five years older than me, has light hair, and works in my industry. I can’t believe I’m saying this but the guy I’m with right now is everything I wanted him to be. It really made me believe that this visualization stuff works!
  3. It felt really weird and even creepy at first. Writing out every detail of my coveted future relationship like I was some strange witch casting a spell on myself felt kinda weird in the beginning. I also read that you should set up your life as if you’re already in the relationship, so I arranged my bed to accommodate another person and imagined I was walking beside my future love when I walked down the street. It was creepy as hell but it made my dreams feel closer to becoming a reality.
  4. It didn’t even take that long. Once I started the visualization process, things instantly started to change. I felt more confident in myself. I found myself getting approached by people left and right. Everyone seemed to want to talk to me. I was finding myself in situations where a relationship could begin but I held out for my perfect guy and guess what—he came!
  5. My whole life just got better as a result. I have a feeling that this whole business of “attracting the life you want” is actually a way of tricking yourself into being happy for what you have and therefore naturally expanding your perspective to take on new opportunities that will enhance your life. However, if it really is just an illusion, I don’t care because I’m in my ideal relationship right now and I’m gonna enjoy every minute.
  6. It cleared my mind. The more I visualized, the less worried I became. Maybe it’s because it brainwashed me into thinking that I’m already living my ideal relationship so there’s no need to wallow in my own existence anymore. I found myself happier and more open to receiving new experiences.
  7. It made me realize how much power I have. I don’t consider myself to be a super spiritual person, but after attracting exactly what I wished for, I can’t help but feel like a modern-day wizard. We’re pretty magical if we just get out of our own way. I believe that by visualizing, we put ourselves in the right state to receive information and opportunities from the universe. It’s just a matter of quieting the mind and focusing on what you really want.
  8. I tell my new BF that I manifested him and he just thinks I’m nuts. I know it sounds crazy but I sincerely believe this! It can’t be just a coincidence that he matches my list almost to a T, I don’t care what anyone says. I manifested him and it was like magic!
  9. I started to really believe that I was worthy of it. The more I visualized and really felt like I was living out my perfect relationship, the more I believed that I could have it. It made me realize that I’ve been living most of my life thinking I deserve less than everyone else, but why? Might as well go for gold.
  10. I did it while I meditated. It was actually pretty easy to do because I would visualize during my meditation which I do every morning for about 15 minutes. I would close my eyes and dive into every detail of my ideal relationship—where we’d go, what we’d do, what we’d talk about, everything. Now I’m living it!
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.