I overanalyze everything, so I never expected to feel so confident in saying “yes” when my fiance slipped a huge diamond ring on my finger. Those starry-eyed, overly romantic people who always say, “When you know he’s ‘The One,’ you just know” are actually right—because I actually did.
I feel so comfortable with myself.
My fiance has consistently pointed out the good things about me and I’ve finally accepted them. I’m proud of the girl I see in the mirror every morning so I don’t question who I am when I’m with him. Promising forever to a man who has given me all the confidence in the world is a no-brainer.
He’s my best friend.
Wedding jitters aren’t really a thing when you realize that you’re vowing to have a sleepover with your best friend for the rest of your life. Best friends are the people who know all of your quirks, insecurities and not-so-great qualities but stand by you anyway. They’re the ones who usually know you better than you know yourself. You can’t deny that it’s a good idea to marry someone who’s loyal to every piece of who you are.
I never have to question his motives about anything.
My fiance isn’t a sketchy guy. I know the password to his phone, his day-by-day work schedule and his favorite place to go golfing. He’s always where he says he’s going to be and I’ve never felt the need to search his location on my iPhone. There aren’t any trust issues to work through, so there’s no need for me to rethink the idea of forever and always. When there’s an open line of communication, a big commitment like marriage isn’t so scary.
My dreams haven’t been put on hold.
I don’t have to give up anything in this marriage. My fiance supports my career goals, travel plans, and big dreams. We’ve visited rental houses, budgeted our finances and mapped out our work commutes to fit our marriage, and he’s centered all of it around what’s most convenient for me. You can’t ask for a much more giving heart in a future spouse.
He lets me take more than I give.
There are little things that he does that always leaves me taking more than I give. When he’s not working late to earn extra date night money, he’s at my house letting me watch Aladdin for the fiftieth time. Pledging your life to someone takes the selfless part of love to a whole new level and my fiance has taken on that selflessness with everything he’s got.
My red flag crowd has been nothing but supportive.
There’s no room for cold feet when I’m marrying someone whom everyone adores. The people who’ve always called out my stupid relationships are just as infatuated with him as I am. Mom’s not complaining that he’s never around and my close friends aren’t saying that I’m wasting my time. The red flag crowd gives him two thumbs-up, and I’m happier than ever to listen to them.
All the planning that should be so stressful isn’t.
Some weddings that I’ve been a part of have been nothing but stressful—and I mean ridiculously stressful. The groom wants the bride in a ball gown but she wants to wear a mermaid tail. The groom won’t eat a vanilla cream cake but that’s the bride’s favorite flavor. Little, nitpicky details have the bride all stressed out, but my wedding planning has been smooth sailing. “It’s whatever you want, babe,” is all I’ve heard from my fiance. The only request he’s made is that he not have to wear a three-piece tuxedo, and I can handle a request like that.
I’m nothing but a better person now.
Why not permanently attach yourself to someone who makes you a better person? When I’m a total jerk to my Dad, he’s the first one to (respectfully) tell me that I should apologize. When I take my stress out on everyone else, he quietly tells me that I should take a breather. He never talks down to me, but he always encourages me to be a better version of myself. I’m more than okay with him doing that for the rest of my life.
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