The Truth Behind The 10 First Date Lies You Tell

You know it’s a good first date if you’re able to totally and completely be yourself. You never want to pretend to be someone else – that’ll only blow up in your face later, which you know if you’ve seen any rom-com or teen movie. But that doesn’t mean you don’t tell a few little white lies over the course of the evening. Here’s the truth behind the 10 most common first date lies we tell:

  1. You’re in a field related to your degree. This one is pretty huge especially considering the awful state of the economy these days. It’s rare to be doing something that’s clearly related to the hours we spent studying back in college. If you find yourself waxing poetic about how learning about political history shaped your mind so that now you can sell insurance, you’re definitely not alone. We all do some form of this.
  2. You’re at your dream job. You know you’re not. You hate the fact that you get your boss coffee and run errands rather than anything creative or productive. But that doesn’t mean you don’t want this guy to think you’re a super positive person who sees the good in everything. The problem with this one is he’ll find out eventually that you hate your boss and cry every night and will wonder why you were so Pollyanna. But you can worry about that later.
  3. Your apartment is Pinterest perfect. Sure, you live with two roommates and their dirty dishes are constantly in the sink, making cooking dinner next to impossible (not that you ever eat much besides pizza). That doesn’t mean you don’t tell this guy that you’re a neat freak in the hopes that he’ll find you adorable and endearing.
  4. You don’t want a relationship. First dates are not exactly the place to discuss where things are going and yet sometimes guys will talk about how they want to keep their options open or stay chill. You go against your best instincts and nod, saying yeah, you’re cool with that. You wouldn’t be the first girl to lie about wanting a relationship (when of course you’re dying for one).
  5. You have a huge social circle. No one really does, unless they collect people that they can ask business favors of, and yet you want this guy to think that you’re super popular. You’re way past high school but you still want to look cool. You brag that yeah, you’re packed this weekend with parties and hang-outs and next week is pretty crazy busy, too.
  6. You cook all the time. You come home from work every weeknight too exhausted to turn on the stove and end up picking up take-out from your local market. But he doesn’t have to know that. Let him think that you whip up gourmet meals from scratch every night. If you guys end up together and he wants to try your cooking, good luck.
  7. You don’t really watch that much TV. I personally brag about my binge-watching on a regular basis because eventually people will find out the truth. But sometimes even I try to tone it down if I want to impress someone. When you get the “What do you do in your spare time?” question on a first date, you can claim that you have other interests besides your fave TV shows. You know the truth.
  8. You have a fabulous vacation coming up. A super popular first date question is if you have any trips planned. I don’t know why but I’m always being asked this. Your instincts are to lie and claim that yeah, you’ve always wanted to go to (insert place here). You don’t want to seem super lame but you’re probably too focused on your career to even think about taking time off right now.
  9. You never use Tinder. If you met on the beyond popular app, that will probably come up during the date, and you’ll shrug and claim you don’t really use it. This is the lie that you both know is a total fib. He’ll lie too, though, so it’s all good.
  10. You would love to do it again. This is usually a total lie, considering how awful first meetings tend to be these days. But if a guy is brave enough to come right out and ask if you want to see him again, you can’t exactly say no, you want to get as far away from him as possible. So you smile, nod and say “sure.” And hope that text doesn’t come.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.