The Truth About Why Make-Up Intimacy Is So Much Hotter & Feels So Much Better Than Regular Intimacy

Unless you’re into angry intimacy, chances are that when you and your partner are fighting, the last thing you want to do is touch each other. But once the arguing is over and the tears have dried, having make-up sessions can do wonders to improve your mood. If you’ve ever hooked up with your partner as a way to confirm that everything’s all right between you after a spat, you know that there’s something about reconciliation sessions that makes it even better than normal intimacy, and here’s why:

  1. There’s still some anger left over. Even if you’re not mad at each other anymore, the residual rage you felt when you two were arguing is usually enough to provide some aggressive, adrenaline-fueled intimacy. All the biting, back scratching, and hair pulling that takes vanilla sessions up a notch will be coming into play, and the anger you felt when you were fighting will pay off in the best way possible.
  2. It feels like a brand new start. Make-up sessions is the R-rated version of waking up at a beachfront hotel with a cup of coffee and a plate of fresh fruit already on your bedside table. It’s like pressing the “reset” button on your relationship, and the feeling of relief is positively euphoric. If you feel like the action you have after recovering from an argument with your partner is better than regular intimacy, it’s probably because your body and hormones are working as hard as they can to make you and your partner as happy as possible after all the drama you just experienced.
  3. It’s a good outlet for all the emotions you’ve gone through. Particularly heated fights can have a whole cocktail of messy feelings involved, including sorrow, resentment, anger, confusion, and – as things get better – happiness and relief. Even after you’ve both calmed down and made peace with each other, channeling that emotion potion into physical energy can have amazing results.
  4. It feels great to finally be on good terms with each other again. The lows of a relationship make the highs feel even higher. The relief of not (kinda) hating each other anymore can be a powerful aphrodisiac, and the rush of attraction you feel for each other once again is the perfect way to guarantee fireworks while gettin’ it on.
  5. It’s the true sign that the fight is officially over. Even once the apologies have been said and a compromise has been reached, everyone knows that a fight isn’t truly resolved until you can eagerly get naked with your partner again. Angry sessions is in a category all its own, but make-up action is the true finish line of a fight in a relationship. That sense of completion builds on to your sense of relief, which – like we said before – can help make it even better.
  6. The idea of it is just so hot. How hot are those movie and book scenes where the main character and their love interest finally reconcile and proceed to steam things up? The mere concept of make-up session is enough to get your body amped up, and that alone can make even “average” intimacy feel incredible.
  7. Reaching your peak is the perfect way to say “sorry.” It’s amazing how quickly you can forgive your partner (or they can forgive you) with the help of an amazing experience. Or two. Or three. The rush of endorphins that you get when you finish tends to make everything a bit sunnier, and the contrast between that and the negative emotions you were feeling before will really take your big O to the next level.
  8. The better the intimacy, the better the make-up. Make-up sessions is like a new “first impression” – almost like you’re hooking up with each other for the first time again. And just like great first-time can set the pace for how the rest of the relationship will go, great make-up session can kick the happy times in your relationship off to a good start again.
  9. It strengthens your bond. A big fight can leave both of you feeling vulnerable, but make-up sessions are like the glue that pulls you back together. Having intimacy after a heated argument is often particularly passionate because you two are becoming even closer emotionally as you get closer physically. It’s no wonder you feel sparks flying when you’re rekindling the romance that brought you two together in the first place.
  10. It feels like a reward for resolving things. Intimacy is obviously part of a relationship and shouldn’t be viewed as a reward (or a punishment when it’s withheld), but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t FEEL like a gold star once you’ve reached a compromise with your partner. Not only is it okay to enjoy your “reward” to the fullest, but it also makes intimacy feel that much better.
Averi is a word nerd and Brazilian jiu jitsu brown belt. She's also a TEFL/TESOL-certified ESL teacher and an equine enthusiast. Originally from Pennsylvania, she lived in Costa Rica for a while before moving to Australia. In addition to her work as a writer and editor for Bolde, she also has bylines with Little Things and regularly writes for Jiu-Jitsu Times.

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