The Ultimate Guide To Not Caring What Anyone Else Thinks

The Ultimate Guide To Not Caring What Anyone Else Thinks ©iStock/SanneBerg

We live in a fast-paced world these days, and sometimes it feels like there’s a ton of pressure to act a certain way. That gets really exhausting, and you need to know that you’re not required to try so hard. In fact, you’ll be much more liberated and less stressed if you stop caring and just do you. In case that’s a foreign concept to you, here’s the blueprint to your future of blissful indifference.

  1. Say no when you don’t want to do something. Don’t feel obligated to do favors or attend social gatherings when you really don’t want to. Your time and resources belong to you, and you deserve to be happy. Think about it; if someone guilt trips you into doing something that’ll make you unhappy for their own benefit, they’re not being a good friend. Don’t be afraid to put your happiness first; you deserve it.
  2. Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses. If you spend your entire life chasing the newest and hottest possessions in order to impress others, you’ll never be happy because there will always be something you don’t have. Attain what makes you happy and you alone; screw the Joneses. They’re not worth keeping up with.
  3. Wear whatever the hell you want. Who cares if flare leg jeans are “out of style” or if it’s after Labor Day but you still like your white sundress? You really don’t have to follow anyone else’s style “rules.” If someone’s petty enough to judge you based on your outfit, they need to get a life. Just do you and wear what makes you happy.
  4. Don’t let people convince you that your opinions are wrong. Opinions are views on topics that aren’t facts, which is why they can’t really be wrong. Just because someone else disagrees with your opinion doesn’t mean you’re wrong to have your own thoughts on the matter.
  5. Be picky about who you date. People love to tell you when you’re single that you’re just being too picky, and that you should settle because it’ll be better than being alone. They’re wrong, so go ahead and disregard that terrible “advice.” You should be picky about who you date because you deserve true happiness, and it’s not found by settling for just anyone.
  6. Don’t let a guy convince you that you’re “crazy” for having normal emotions and expectations. It’s called gaslighting, and it’s a form of emotional abuse, so don’t fall for it. As soon as you see that red flag, shake your head and laugh, then run as fast as you can in the opposite direction. There’s no need to acknowledge that kind of nonsense.
  7. Don’t let your parents’ expectations get to you. Next time they ask you why you’re not married yet and inquire as to the whereabouts of their potential future grandkids, just shrug it off and tell them about the exciting things that are happening in your life, like your career or hobbies. If you haven’t met The One yet, that’s really not your fault, and there’s no need to stress over it (no matter how badly the ‘rents are dying for grandkids).
  8. Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you’re beautiful and awesome. There are plenty of people in the world who will try to tear you down; you need to give yourself the confidence to stand up against the opposition every day. Don’t let the haters get you down; just keep on doing you.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.