Be Unapologetically You — There’s A Guy Out There Who Will Love You For It

No matter who you are or where you come from, there is hope of finding real, lasting love. Everyone out there likes something different, and there are plenty of guys who will think you’re wonderful for just being your weird, wonderful self. Don’t waste time pretending to be someone you’re not. Instead, focus on being unabashedly YOU and know that you’ll find the man who adores you for it.

  1. Hiding is a waste of time. He’s going to figure out who you really are eventually. What’s the point in pretending to be someone else? You might impress him in the beginning, but don’t you want someone who cares about the true you? It’ll fall apart as soon as your facade slips, and it’s bound to happen. It’s just a matter of time.
  2. The facade only holds up for so long. What are you going to do, pretend to be a different person forever? It’s depressing and untrue to believe that you’ll only find love if you are somebody else. Every single person deserves love and believe it or not, there are those out there who will give it to you. It might not be right away, but that only means it’ll be worth the wait when it really does happen.
  3. Your motivation shouldn’t be a man. Don’t be a certain kind of person because of a guy. If you’re going to change, do it for real and do it to better yourself. Hiding your true interests, feelings and emotions will get you absolutely nowhere. Change for a man and you’ll fall apart as soon as he’s gone. Be the best possible version of yourself — that’s what matters.
  4. You have to stand strong and proud no matter what. You, as a human being, have value no matter who you are. Our differences are what make us wonderful. Be proud of your strengths, your quirks and your flaws. Don’t listen to haters. They’re just threatened by your shine. Something is broken inside of them and that’s their problem, not yours.
  5. You don’t want someone who loves a false version of you. Seriously, you don’t. That sucks. It feels emptier than not being loved at all. The thing is, even if you don’t have the romantic love of a man, you probably have lots of love in your life. You have family and friends who love you, and that’s the most important affection of all. A partner is the icing on the cake. Those people care about you for who you are and he will too.
  6. Faking it is a waste of time. Not only are you wasting your time, you’re wasting his. How do you feel when you find out a guy isn’t who you thought he was? Exactly. Don’t be that person. Treat him how you’d like to be treated — be honest and open. If he isn’t into it, he’s obviously not your guy.
  7. The best you can do is go about your life and have faith. If you spend your days well and fill them with love and light, not worrying about a guy, he might just show up when you least expect it. If he doesn’t, at least you’ll have a great life anyway. You might not even notice the void. When you do meet someone, he’ll love you for who you are and you won’t have to change a thing.
  8. It’ll happen — and when it does, it’ll be so good. The best things come along when you least expect it. They’re that much better because you weren’t looking for them. Think about how amazing it’ll be when you meet the guy who loves you as you are and stop wasting your effort on guys who don’t. Be yourself, live your life, love, laugh, cry and experience every moment fiercely.
  9. You won’t need each other, but you’ll want each other. The right guy doesn’t need you for some BS quality you made up anyway. He makes a conscious choice to have you in his life. He loves you as you are and would never try to change or squash that. The best love is a decision, not a need. Codependency gets messy. It feels wonderful to have someone look at you and simply choose you. That’s the kind of love you want and deserve.
  10. The love you build will be beyond worth the wait. Think about the relationships you’ve seen. You can see the difference between truly happy couples and those who aren’t comfortable with each other. You want the former, and it’ll take some very careful selection to find the right person. It’s so worth it to make sure you’re true to yourself so matter what and therefore end up with a partner who will be best for you.
  11. Nothing feels better than appreciation for your true self. Hopefully you’re able to be yourself around your family and friends. If so, doesn’t that feel great? Now imagine you’re in love with someone who accepts you that wholeheartedly too. How wonderful. Make sure that you’re accepting of others and you just might get the same in return.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at