Until I’m In A Relationship, I’m Going To Be The Most Single “Single Girl” I Can Be

I know that someday I’m going to be an amazing girlfriend. I’m going to be a true partner who considers her future husband every step of the way. Someday I’ll love a man with my whole heart, but until that day comes, I’m going to live my life just for me.

  1. I won’t waste all my time looking for Mr. Right. I’m not going to spend every night in my life trying to tempt fate. I want to live in the moment, but be obsessed with the future. My life doesn’t start when I meet my future husband, it started a long time ago, and I’m not going to waste a single second of it. I’ll find “The One” eventually, I’m sure, but I won’t spend all of my time looking for him.
  2. I want a relationship, but that’s not all I want out of life. I have bigger dreams than simply finding a man. I have serious career aspirations. I have places I want to go and things I want to see. There’s more on my bucket list than getting married and having children, so I’m going to start checking those things off one by one right now while I’m still single.
  3. This is my time to be selfish. Right now, my life is all about me. Someday I’ll have a husband to worry about, but right now that’s out of sight and out of mind. I haven’t met him yet so I’m not going to worry about him until I do. This is the one time in my life where I get to be selfish, where I get to make every decision for my own gain without the consideration to a partner, and I’m not going to waste it worrying about a man I haven’t even met.
  4. I want to live every chapter in my life to the fullest. I’m a single lady and I don’t want to miss out on anything that the single life has to offer. I want to experience this part of my life while I still can. I want to go out, have fun with my girls, and not feel guilty about it. I want to look back on my single life and remember how much fun I had and that’s exactly how I’ll look forward to my next adventure with Mr. Right.
  5. I’m my number one priority. I don’t think that’s a bad thing. In fact, I think that’s the way life should be when you’re a single woman. I put me first because right now I’m the most important person in my life. This is the time to focus on discovering who I am and who I want to be. This is the time to work on my career and figure out what I really want in life. Being single is all about making my every want a need of the highest priority.
  6. I want to be happy no matter what my relationship status is. I don’t ever want my happiness to depend on whether or not I have a man in my life. To me, that’s just pathetic. My life’s purpose isn’t to be with some guy. I can’t keep pushing my happiness off until I reach some sort of relationship goal. A man can’t make me happy. I make me happy, and that’s how I’m a happily single girl.
  7. I’m not going to wait to live my life. There’s a man in my future, but when I meet him, I won’t be apologizing for my past. We’ll both have had lives before we met each other and that’s the way it should be. I can’t be angry with him for the women he loved before. He’ll have a past and so will I. What matters is who we are after we meet each other, not before.
  8. I’m going to do what I want when I want. I don’t have anyone else to consider right now, so why wouldn’t I? All of my time is my time. After I meet the right guy, I’ll take him into consideration, but not before. For now, I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want. I get to take an interest in my hobbies without having to compromise time for anyone else. Whether I want to spend all night out or all night with Netflix, that choice is mine and mine alone.
  9. I think relationships are partnerships, but singlehood is a solo mission. I believe in a democratic relationship. We both get a vote and work together to compromise, but I’m not in a relationship, which means I’m in solely in charge. For right now, my life is all my own and I’m going to live it as such. I’m not going to consider my future partner in my decisions. Right now, my choices are all about me and only me.
  10. I’ll only be single once. Just like I’m only young once, at some point, my single days will be over. Once I settle down with the right man, there’s no going back. From then on, I’ll be forever part of a partnership. I’ll always care about his thoughts, opinions, wants, and needs, but while I’m single, I can be carefree. I’ll only be on my own once and this part of my life is just for me.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.