I Used To Worry About These Things, But I Have No More F*cks To Give

Some things are worth the time and energy it takes to worry about them and some things aren’t. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve definitely noticed my priorities shifting, and my ability to actually care about certain things has all but vanished. Life’s too short to fret about these things for one more second:

  1. Why a guy never called There are literally hundreds of different scenarios that involve a guy never calling. The most likely one is that he just wasn’t that into me, and that’s really all I need to know. If he’s not interested, I don’t need him —why obsess over it?
  2. Why a friend of a friend doesn’t like me It used to bother me that someone didn’t like me, because I’m obviously a wonderful person. But accepting that I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea was a big turning point. There are billions of people in the world, so who cares if a couple of them don’t want anything to do with me?
  3. That I’ll never have J.Lo’s butt, no matter how many squats I do Not only was my body not created equal to J. Lo’s, but I don’t have a personal trainer and a job that requires me to look flawless at all times– and honestly, that’s a relief. I could do 500 squats a day and still not have a perfect body. I hate doing squats anyway.
  4. That my ex is dating someone new He’s my ex for a reason, so why should it bother me that he’s moved on? I know, easier said that done sometimes, but caring what he’s up to is just a big waste of time, so I’m officially done with it.
  5. That my friend chooses to date a douchebag Not that I haven’t made my feelings on the subject known as gently as possible, but I don’t get to choose who she dates. I might think he’s no good enough for her, but I don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, so I’m not going to worry about it. What I will do is be there for her when (fine, IF) he completely messes things up.
  6. Anything to do with frenemies If I have to interpret someone’s passive aggressive comments and wonder what their true motives are every time we interact, they aren’t worth my time. I’d rather spend my time with people I actually like.
  7. What people think of who I date I used to worry about what people would think about my boyfriend’s haircut, his job, or even his food preferences, but it’s actually exhausting to care that much about things I can’t control. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of him — as long as he treats me well and we’re happy, that’s all I care about.
  8. Going to events I don’t want to go to Family and work obligations always fill me with dread. There will always be certain things I have to do — that’s life. But there’s no reason I have to go to everything I’m invited to. If I’d really rather stay home and watch TV one night than go to some networking event, I’m going to. And it’s okay, because I’m at the point where I know when my presence is necessary and when it’s not.
  9. All the things I haven’t accomplished Why obsess over the things I haven’t done when I can be proud of the things I have? Not every goal I ever set will be met, but I just can’t care anymore. I know I’m doing my best, and that’s the most I can really demand from myself.
  10. Following a perfect diet at all times Eating healthy is important, and it’s something I think about a lot. But at the same time, I really like pizza and donuts. I’d go crazy if I had to count calories every single day. I know my body type isn’t going to change too drastically, and it’s time to accept that instead of obsessing over what to eat every day to look a certain way. Instead, I’ll find the right way to indulge responsibly.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.