Sex when you’re in a relationship is completely different from when you’re single — it’s just a fact. When you’re comfortable with someone, you can let go of your insecurities and feel free to try every new, weird thing you’ve always wondered about. Being single doesn’t necessarily mean you’re celibate (although sometimes it feels like you might as well be), but the kind of sex you’re probably having is a lot different from sex you’d have in a relationship. Eventually you just start seeing sex differently. Whether that’s a good thing or a bad thing is up to you.
- Splurging on a high end sex toy doesn’t seem like such a waste of money anymore. At least you know you’ll get off every time you use it. That’s definitely worth the money — and it means you won’t have to frantically swipe through Tinder the next time you get too horny to function (you know it happens).
- Your libido actually starts to calm down. Maybe it’s a form of self preservation, but it seems like the longer you go without having sex, the less you want it. That’s probably because you kind of forget what it’s like to be naked around another person. That’s might be a good thing — at least for now.
- You lower your standards. There will always be those times when all you want to do is have sex. That probably means you couldn’t care less whether a guy is serious boyfriend material or not. As long as he can get hard and he’s willing to go down on you, you’re in.
- You raise your standards. While you’ll lower your expectations when you’re on the hunt for a one night stand, you’re definitely going to notice that you expect a lot more from a guy who might actually have long term potential. It’s kind of expected that your one-night stand won’t be the best you ever had, but if you’re going to get into a relationship with someone after being single this long, than he damn well better be in the 99th percentile. You won’t settle for less.
- You don’t need an emotional connection to have sex. Since you’ve been single for awhile, you know that feeling a real connection with someone isn’t something that happens every day. That doesn’t mean you can’t have great sex when the opportunity arises, though. It’s actually a relief to have the ability to have sex with a guy and not get emotionally attached. Not every guy you meet is going to be your soulmate.
- You don’t really understand couples who have sex infrequently. Your friend has been with her boyfriend for too many years to count and according to her they get it on maybe once every few months. You can’t imagine having a perfectly good, working penis right beside you every night and never wanting to put it to use.
- You realize that most of the time, sex for the sake of it isn’t worth it. As appealing as a one night stand can seem at times (after a few too many rum and diets most likely), you’ve had enough of them to know that it’s probably going to be a lot more productive to just go home alone and take out that expensive new vibrator you just bought. At least it won’t get a limp penis and fall asleep on your arm.
- A reliable, skilled friends with benefits is like the holy grail. One of those guys who knows exactly what you like, is always up for a last-minute hook up on your terms, and actually doesn’t mind going out for brunch the next morning is worth a thousand one night stands. If you can manage to lock down an arrangement like that and also keep any creeping feelings at bay, you’ve hit the single girl jackpot.
