If You’re Waiting For A Flawless Guy, You’ll Be Single Forever

The longer you stay single, the pickier you seem to get. You may not even realize this is happening at first, but eventually you realize that you keep turning down second dates with perfectly good guys. Here’s the truth: if you wait for a flawless guy, you’ll be waiting forever.

  1. No one is perfect. Nope, not even you. If you want a guy to accept you even when you’re being super annoying or are in a bad mood, why wouldn’t you do the same? Don’t be a hypocrite. Accept a guy for who he is, flaws and all.
  2. You don’t have all the info. How could you possibly think you know someone super well after only one date? It takes a long time to really get to know someone. Sure, you’re not going to keep dating a total jerk or loser, but if you’re on the fence about a guy, remember that in the beginning, you don’t have all the necessary information. Keep dating him and see what happens.
  3. People lie. If you think a guy is totally perfect, you’re going to realize soon enough that he’s totally lying to you. No, a 25-year-old is probably not an entrepreneur, despite what he says on his Tinder profile. No, your first date doesn’t really agree with everything you say and share the same hobbies and interests as you. Save yourself the heartache and don’t believe the lies.
  4. Mistakes happen. You already know that people mess up. Even your best friends in the whole world double-book plans and cancel on you last-minute. Even your parents give you the wrong advice and then later apologize. People make mistakes. If you don’t allow the guys you date to learn from their own mistakes, you’re being pretty unfair.
  5. You want to grow together. When you’re in a real relationship, you can’t expect the guy you’re with to stay the exact same. You’re going to grow too, and you want to grow together. You can’t do that if you refuse to accept someone who has some things to work on.
  6. You’re young. You don’t have it all figured it out yet. Life is still pretty confusing and tricky sometimes. You don’t know it all everything, so why would you think that your date does? First of all, that would just make him a super conceited jerk, and second of all, that wouldn’t make your relationship much fun. Embrace the unknown, embrace both of your flaws, and stop being so ridiculous.
  7. You actually want someone real. You may think you want a guy who’s got a corporate job, a condo that he owns, a fancy sports car and his life totally planned out for the next ten years. But that’s going to bore you to tears. You want someone real. Someone who holds your hand when you’re super stressed over work. Someone who shares their stories and emotions as much as you share yours. That’s what’s going to bring you happiness in the long run, not perfection.
  8. You’re not locked in forever. You don’t have to be terrified of making the so-called wrong choice. If you date a guy for a while and realize he’s not for you, you can get out. You’re not locked into this relationship forever. So you might as well take a chance and go for it. You may not be with a perfect guy — but you’ll probably realize that he’s even better.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.