Stop Waiting For The Perfect Relationship & Start Leading Your Perfect Life

You might think you need the perfect guy or relationship in order to feel you’re really living, but that’s BS. Nothing’s stopping you from creating a perfect life right now, so when you’re feeling down about being single, remember these 11 things.

  1. A relationship is only one part of the pie, not the whole pie. It’s easy to think that having a relationship with your soulmate will give your life meaning, but it’s not quite that simple. Your life is filled with so many things that give it meaning on a daily basis. A relationship would only be one part of your life, so don’t let it steal the whole show. That would be like letting a man become the star of your life when he’s only supposed to be a supporting actor. You’re the lead character. Don’t forget it.
  2. Life is happening right now. Right this second, you might not have someone in your life. But think of all that you do have. Life is flying by and you don’t want to waste it just because you haven’t achieved the goal of a relationship. That’s a big waste of your life!
  3. You don’t need someone to make you happy. You’re the only person who can control your happiness all the time. If you think you need a romantic partner to boost your happiness, then you need to open your eyes to the happiness that exists right now for the taking—and doesn’t come with the disclaimer that you need a partner in order to enjoy it.
  4. You can control what happens to you. You might not be able to control whether or not you meet the right guy, but you can control so much else in your life, like your happiness, your creativity, what you do with your time, where you go, and so on. When you make decisions, you open yourself up to new opportunities, and these opportunities might not have come your way if you had someone in your life.
  5. You shouldn’t waste your time. Imagine that your perfect partner turns up in a year’s time. If you wait around for him with your life and happiness on hold, you’re going to end up with regrets. You’ll look back on this time and think, “Damn, I should’ve done more. I should’ve enjoyed myself more.” You don’t want that weighing on you. Pretend you’re your future self looking at where you are now. What would you tell yourself? Probably that you should live your life!
  6. Your life shouldn’t be on hold for someone else. No one has the power to control you or define you. Ask yourself what would happen if your perfect partner came into your life today. Once the excitement wanes, you’re going to want to live your life as you always have. You’re going to want to pursue your passions and dreams. You can’t find fulfillment in one person. It’s unrealistic. So what’s stopping you from pursuing those things that make you happy right now?
  7. You could die tomorrow. Yeah, it’s not nice to think about, but it’s true—your life could end tomorrow. Life is short. Do you really want to spend your limited time on this earth waiting for someone to make you happy? I didn’t think so.
  8. You’re in this stage of life for a reason. You might wonder why you’re alone and lonely, but everything happens for a reason. Maybe it’s an opportunity for you to do things you’ve always wanted to do, learn to be more independent, or learn how to make yourself happy. Take those opportunities! They’ll enrich your life now and also make any future relationships you have much more successful.
  9. You can discover more about yourself. You might roll your eyes and say, “I do know myself enough, thank you,” but we can never completely know ourselves. There’s always more to explore. We were put on this earth to find our greater purpose and to love ourselves as well as others. Don’t let the chance to love someone else cloud your mission to love yourself and take yourself to new heights. That should be your main purpose.
  10. You can achieve whatever you want without distractions. Although a relationship can be amazing, don’t forget that it can also be stressful. Relationships take a lot of your time and energy away from the rest of your life. You’re actually in the position to achieve whatever you want without having to take another person into account. It’s amazing!
  11. You’re free, and that’s a gift. You’re not just free to do whatever you want and achieve your biggest goals, whether that’s owning your own company or climbing Everest. You’re also free to make connections with lots of people, live your life the way you want to, and everything in between. Basically, your life’s happening right now and it’s the perfect life in the making—if you want it to be. No one else can make it perfect for you, not even The One. It’s up to you…
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.