It’s not easy to have your act together. It takes effort, energy, ambition, and, more than anything, giving a f*ck. Women who have their acts together get stuff done, they kill it both in and out of the boardroom and yet they aren’t afraid to be vulnerable when they have to be. They are, without a doubt, the kind of women we should all aspire to be.
They get up early. Women who have their act together don’t hit snooze a dozen times. This isn’t to say they never hit snooze but they know that hanging around in bed half dozing in between alarms is just a waste of time. They want to get out there and grab life by the ovaries.
They always take lunch. As Americans, many of us have become accustomed to either eating lunch at our desk or skipping it altogether because God forbid you leave the office, breathe in some fresh air, and take a break. Women who have their act together always take that hour-long lunch and never feel bad about it. They know they don’t just deserve it, but it keeps them healthy and sane.
They demand that they’re heard. Whether it’s at work, out with a group of friends, or mid-discussion with their partner, women who have their act together know that their opinion matters and won’t stand for being talked over or ignored. If it means raising their voice a bit so they’re heard by everyone, they’ll do it.
They understand being selfish isn’t a bad thing. Whoever said it was bad to be selfish, clearly didn’t have the best understanding of what it means to be selfish. While being selfish in bed isn’t going to win anyone any points, being selfish a few times throughout the day is normal and healthy. Women who have their act together know that it’s OK to take what they want by putting themselves first. No one else is going to do it for them.
They’re not afraid to cry. Even if the need to cry doesn’t strike them every single day, women who have their act together know that if they need to cry one day for whatever reason, it’s OK. Crying is not a sign of weakness. If anything, it’s a sign of strength that you’re not afraid to be human.
They stick to a routine. Human beings, by nature, love routines. You may think that you’re not the routine sort but you actually are. In realizing that human beings need a routine to help them succeed, women who have their act together stick to their routine day in and day out, every day of the year. But they also stay cool should something throw that routine out of whack, you know, because things happen.
They have work-life balance down to a science. Women who have their act together know that if you can’t keep your professional and personal life on even playing fields, then everything suffers. It’s not easy to maintain both with the same amount of vigor, but these particular women manage to pull it off every day of the week. Happy hour after the big meeting, anyone?
They don’t settle in any area of their lives. Not at work, not in their romantic relationships, not in their friendships, and not in some no-name pair of shoes—no way. Women who have their act together know they deserve the best and don’t settle for anything else.
They have their priorities in order. Like, way in order. They know who’s numero uno— themselves—but they also know that they need to make space and time for other people and things in order to keep everything on an even keel.
They surround themselves with people who lift them up. Women who have their act together avoid the corner of the office where the negative Nellies hang out, they have those toxic “friends” on Facebook blocked, and they even go out of their way to get coffee at the coffee shop where the barista with the awesome attitude works. They know that both positivity and negativity are contagious, so they want to make sure they catch the positivity instead.
They stand up for what’s right. No matter how small or seemingly insignificant the injustice, whether it’s witnessing someone being mean to a stranger or cutting the coffee line, women who have their act together always speak up and shut down those who are in the wrong.
They take the necessary amount of risks. You can’t evolve and grow without taking a risk. These women know this and aren’t afraid to throw caution to the wind if they think it will result in something good.
They give no f*cks about what others think about them. Women who have their act together have no time for drama, petty BS, or the grievances of people who have yet to grow up. So instead of engaging in whatever BS or gossip that comes their way throughout the day, they simply roll their eyes and walk away.
They realize the importance of forgiveness. People mess up. From the time we get up in the morning to the time we got to bed, there’s a good chance we’ll run into someone who has screwed up in some way and we’ve been inconvenienced by it. Sure, it sucks, but carrying a grudge sucks more. Women who have their act together know there’s not just strength in forgiveness but peace of mind too.
They can sleep at night. Why? Because they have their act together and they’re living their best life, free of the crap that tends to weigh other people down. Their conscience is clear, they can breathe deeply, and when they dream, even their dreams have their act together. How awesome is that? (Hint: the awesomest.)