I Want To Get Married, But Here’s Why I’m Waiting Until My 30s

Marriage is the ultimate goal, don’t get me wrong, but it will never work if the commitment is made at the wrong time to the wrong person. No matter how much I want to be someone’s wife, I won’t be doing it until I’m into my thirties for some very important reasons.

  1. I want to spend my twenties single. I want to discover the world on my own before I get married. I don’t want to feel like I missed out on being young and wild. I want to establish a solid foundation with myself before I create one with someone else. I’m still working on myself, my insecurities, and self-destructive behaviors that I don’t wanna carry with me into my marriage. I don’t want to wake up one day not being able to recognize myself. You know how some people lose themselves in their marriage? Well, I don’t want that for myself.
  2. I’m not giving in to peer pressure. I don’t want to settle because everyone around me is tying the not. I don’t want to make a life-changing decision to make my family happy or to get their approval. I’m going to do what’s best for me and live my life on my terms.
  3. Marriage is a huge step I’m not ready to make. I’ve been single my whole life, so I’m not gonna jump into the arms of someone all of a sudden. I want to take it slow and to be honest, I don’t want to invest in a relationship that has no future. Being married is more than a wedding, a ring, and a busy life. It’s about sharing your personal space, your dreams, and yourself with someone.
  4. My financial situation is just sad. I have two jobs and NO savings. Yes, I’m a shopaholic! Also, come on, life is so expensive. I don’t want to financially struggle while I’m married. It will make me stressed and anxious. Being financially stable will boost my independence and self-esteem. I don’t want to feel insecure in my marriage because I can’t financially provide for us.
  5. I haven’t met my person yet. I’m not going to marry a guy just for the sake of marrying someone. I want to be with someone who is right for me. Someone who has many of the qualities I’m looking for and someone who loves me for who I am. I want to marry my person; the guy who becomes the one for me like I become the one for him. I’m not going to force it with someone who I know deep down isn’t right. I’d rather be happily single than miserably married.
  6. My mom and I are so close. My mom and I are best friends and we spend most of our time together. I’ve almost lived my whole life with her and the relationship I have with my mom means everything to me. I’m not ready to alter our time or lifestyle fit a guy into my life. I’m going to have a hard time moving out and being with someone. Maybe I have attachment issues to my mom, but being an only child, she has always been everything to me. Until I hit my late twenties, I’m not considering to welcome the next chapter of my life.
  7. I don’t want to be held down. There are still many things I want to accomplish in life that I haven’t done yet. I don’t want to get married without feeling competent with myself. Not having lived some of my dreams before being someone’s wife will always be a regret of mine. That’s why marriage isn’t on my agenda anytime soon.
  8. We live in a modern world. I don’t need to be married to someone so that I can be with them. I have options! As women, we have the opportunity to truly get to know someone before marriage. We can get a sense of what life will be with them and decide whether it’s what we see for ourselves or not. I’m not in a rush to choose someone when I have a plenty of options to pick from. It’s more confusing that way. I find it harder to know if a guy is the right one than finding the right guy.
  9. I’m afraid to get a divorce. I don’t know about you, but I’ve been seeing many young couples separate. It’s like people don’t want to be married anymore. Maybe they realized that they rushed into it after a couple of years. Maybe they weren’t happy or their relationship became unhealthy. Maybe they fell out of love, or maybe they were never right for each other and they weren’t honest about it. I’ve always wanted to be with just one person, I mean who doesn’t want that? But as I continue to understand how life goes, things don’t always work out. That’s kind of the point.
  10. Maybe marriage isn’t for me. I see people in happy marriages and I can’t help but wonder if I was made for it. I’ve never pictured myself being someone’s girlfriend, let alone being a wife. I guess I’m just scared because I haven’t seen successful marriages around me. I’ll just have to wait and find out!