I Want Love But There’s Legitimately No Room In My Life

It’s an unfortunate conundrum: while I would love to have a healthy, happy relationship, I’m simply not in a place in my life where I can do so. I have so much that I want to accomplish, and I just can’t make room for a man. I know that I’ll be disappointed in myself if I compromise my goals for love, so I’d rather stay single until I actually have the time and energy for a real relationship.

  1. I have multiple jobs. As I juggle paying my bills with pursuing a developing career, it’s a necessity. I need flexibility in order to get where I want to go, so I work a few part-time jobs. I love my unorthodox schedule and have no intention of working a 9-to-5. It’s just not me. But all those responsibilities do take up a lot of time, and right now, they have to take priority over my love life.
  2. When I’m not working, I’m pursuing my dreams. It’s still work, but I don’t make much money doing it, so I keep the day jobs. I’m always working towards something, whether it’s money to keep myself going or building my writing career so I can someday live off of that instead. I want to be successful at something I enjoy, even if that means making a few sacrifices in my dating life.
  3. I have tons of friends. How can I make room for a man when I hardly even see my girls? I love them and it’s so difficult to spend quality time with them now. If I add a relationship into the mix, it’ll get even worse. I can’t stand it when girls disappear from my life because they get boyfriends, and I don’t want to be one of those people.
  4. I’m close to my family. They don’t live here, but that means that I have to take trips to visit them. It also means that I spend a good deal of my spare time talking to them. I won’t give up communication with my family to call a man instead. I have my priorities straight.
  5. I’m very physically active. I’ve always been very active, and I’m now training in an athletic teaching position. I commit at least a couple hours almost every day to physical fitness, whether it be yoga, hiking, running, or another form of exercise. This is a large chunk of time but it’s crucial to me.
  6. I’m learning a language. One of my resolutions for this year is to teach myself Spanish. Learning a new language is no small undertaking, especially when I’m already this busy. I’m determined to do it, and I won’t abandon my plans for a guy. I want to be able to communicate when I travel to Central or South America.
  7. I have a myriad of interests. There are so many different activities that I enjoy. I can’t possibly cram them all into my life, but I try pretty hard. While I would love a partner in crime, it’d be hard to find a guy who could keep up with all the stuff I want to do. My interests are all over the board, and I won’t abandon them for anyone.
  8. I highly value my sleep. I am the kind of girl who needs her eight hours. I wish I weren’t, but it’s just a fact of life. I don’t function well on much less. I know that if I try to fit a relationship into my already extensive list of commitments, I won’t get enough rest. If I’m tired and crabby, I’ll be a terrible girlfriend anyway.
  9. I volunteer. In addition to everything else, I volunteer and I’m very active on the political front. It’s of utmost importance to me that I give back to the world. I will do this no matter what, and I cannot let any guy distract me from my priorities. Helping people means everything to me.
  10. I value my independence more than I want a man. It really comes down to this: I’m not willing to compromise my very full and happy life for a relationship. Perhaps someday a guy will come along who changes all that, but I don’t know that I’ll ever want to give up any part of my life. I love having my freedom and pursuing exactly what I want to do.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She hopes that they resonate with you or at the very least make you chuckle a bit. She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and The Indie Chicks.