Keeping it casual might be all the rage, but some guys haven’t gotten the full disclosure memo. In other words, if you aren’t interested in anything serious, then you’d better say so. You’re free to participate in no strings attached arrangements, but you don’t have to play a girl to get it. If all you’re looking for is sex, then please, just tell me.
- I don’t want to waste my time. If I don’t know the guidelines of this “relationship,” then I’ll be wasting my time pursuing love in the completely wrong place. If I don’t know that we’re headed to nowhere, I’ll keep believing in something more. Don’t waste the space in my heart, don’t waste my effort and please, don’t waste my time.
- I want to keep looking for other options. If we’re not serious, then my seeing someone else shouldn’t offend you. Even if I did want to pursue this casual, no strings attached “relationship” with you, I still want to be able to see what else is out there. If I don’t know you just want sex, then I’ll just keep thinking there’s a chance for me and you and missing out on every chance with someone new.
- Plenty of women want just sex too. So if I don’t, go find one who does. It’s 2016 and women have every right to their promiscuity. It shouldn’t be that hard to find a girl who’s into casual hookups. I’m just a little more old school. Any girl can get you off, so just forget about me and find a girl who only wants to get off too.
- I can take the truth. I’m a pretty (brutally) honest person. I know that if I dish it out, then I have to be able to take it, so just try me. Face your fears and give me a chance to accept your honesty. I’m not going to slap you; I’m just going to tell you I’m not interested. Is that really so bad? After all, isn’t that exactly what you’d be saying to me?
- I want to know what I’m getting myself into. I shouldn’t have to live with a false hope that we’re headed toward a relationship. You’ve made the choice to forsake love and pursue sex. I just want to be made aware of that decision. You have your needs, but I have mine too. What I need is full disclosure.
- For me, sex and emotions are a tangled web. If you want no strings attached, then you picked the wrong girl. I take love and sex a little more seriously, so every time you sleep with me, my heart gets screwed too. I can’t separate sex and feelings. For me, the former is an act of the latter. If all you want is meaningless sex, you better find someone who sex means less to.
- You’ll save yourself some drama. If you were honest with me in the first place, then I could have saved you a lot of drama by denying your casual hookup request. You didn’t give me that courtesy though, and now I’m rightfully pissed. I should have known your intentions from the get-go. Instead, you let me falsely believe we were already headed somewhere. That’s a d-bag move, if you ask me.
- You never gave me a choice. I should have a say in this “relationship,” but you never gave me the option to bow out of this hookup buddy agreement. You made all the decisions and never even considered what I wanted or how I would feel. You were in it for the sex, that I can take — but not telling me the truth from day one? Now that’s unforgivable.
