If You Want To Stay Forever Young, Stay Forever Single

I’m happily committed in a serious relationship, but I often feel like I need to switch to single mode in order to feel like I’m still young. Don’t get me wrong — relationships are important and we all need love and emotional support to be happy and fulfilled. But, if I’m being honest, single women have definitely an advantage when it comes to staying and feeling young. Here’s why:

  1. Looking good is still a priority for single people. Being in a relationship can make us all a bit lazy, and we wind up thinking that looking desirable isn’t important or a priority because we’ve already found someone who loves us regardless. Singles stay in the game for longer, so they’re used to looking after their appearance. Being single in some ways is similar to working in PR. You just interact with so many more people than women in relationships do, and therefore, you need to look the part. There’s no time to be a couch potato because you spend almost zero time at home.
  2. Single people can flirt as much as they want. Love gives us lots of energy, and a big part of it happens in the early stages when we first meet someone. The excitement of a new beginning when you’ve just started to flirt with a guy you like is an emotion that doesn’t last long, but no doubt it’s the most intense and romantic phase in a relationship. When you’re single, you get to experience these emotions more often, and even if things don’t work out in the end, you still get to enjoy the game, which is what matters when it comes to staying young.
  3. Single people can focus on their career goals without feeling guilty about it. If your career is important to you, staying single helps you focus on your goals and priorities. You don’t have to divide your time, make up excuses or feel guilty because you make your career a priority. You go after what you want and don’t waste any time worrying and stressing because you’re not a Superwoman.
  4. Single people are surrounded by the social circle they choose. Socializing as a couple can be a burden at times, especially if you’re married. It often means that you have to make serious compromises when it comes to who you hang out with and what you do when you’re together. When you’re single, you’re free to meet new people and hang out with whoever you want, whenever you want. Likewise, when you don’t like someone, you don’t have to see them — which obviously isn’t the case with your partner’s friends.
  5. The future is unknown for single people and that’s fascinating. It can be terrifying to not know what the future holds for you, but it’s even more terrifying to feel like you know the exact answer. For single women, the mystery and endless possibilities of the future make life interesting, full and diverse. When you’re in a long-term relationship, it can start to feel like you’ve got it all figured out, and that can get boring.
  6. Single people spend their money on things that they enjoy. Being single for longer means you’re free to spend your hard-earned cash on things that make you feel good. From traveling the world to splashing on a spa weekend, it’s your call where you invest your money. Moreover, you don’t have to feel guilty because you’re not saving up for a big wedding or your unborn children’s college education.
  7. Single people can sleep in on Sundays if you feel like it. You’re the sole owner of your bed and your beauty sleep is sacred when you’re single. If you want to sleep all day on a weekend, no one is going to force you out of bed because it’s laundry day. Neither do you need to cook elaborate dinners on Sunday nights to prove to a guy that you’re wifey material when all you want to do is order in and chill on the couch.
  8. Single people still looking for something extraordinary. Most of your married friends will tell you that long-term commitments don’t happen without making serious compromises, and a tad of disillusionment is inevitable too. When you’re single, you haven’t made these compromises so you still have a romantic outlook on life, which is by definition what being young is about. You’re young at heart, and that’s what matters the most.
  9. There are no limits to how spontaneous single people can be. Stay up partying all night? Last minute road trip with your girls? It doesn’t matter how old you are — when you’re single, you can be as wild as you like. As long as you’re an adult and you don’t live with your mom and dad, the world is your oyster.
  10. Single people can simply skip the boring adult stuff. Being single means you get to choose which of the adult stuff you want to do and which you’d rather not. You can choose independence, fun and gaining experiences over routine, boredom, and responsibilities that don’t appeal to you, and therefore keep the kid inside you alive.
Chrisa is a freelance travel and lifestyle journalist who is obsessed with urban life, big cities, and untold stories.