I Want You To Be Happy — Even If It’s Not With Me

I Want You To Be Happy — Even If It’s Not With Me ©iStock/Likoper

You were the first and only guy I’ve ever loved, and that means you’ll always hold a super special place in my world. You seriously broke my heart into a million pieces and I don’t like thinking about the girl I became for a few months after that night you ended things. I’m definitely over you, but you still cross my mind every once in a while. I’ll always love you, but I want you to find happiness — even if it can’t be with me.

  1. You deserve to find your purpose. Ambitious girl, slightly lazy guy: we weren’t the first characters to be part of that classic love story and we won’t be the last. But I’ve always wanted you to figure out what you really want to do with your life so you can find happiness, even if you’re not with me anymore. Life is too short to be miserable in a series of crappy jobs and to wish for things but never make them into reality.
  2. You actually know how to be a boyfriend. This is a pretty massive deal, especially in the world of ghosting and picky people. You were sweet, romantic, kind and compassionate. You wore your heart on your sleeve and said what you felt and meant what you said. Hopefully you’re still that way and some lucky girl gets to experience how good of a BF you can be.
  3. You’re not a bad person. I don’t hate you the way I hate other guys I’ve been with. You never made me angry, you just made me sad. You didn’t live up to your potential but hopefully you will someday, because it’s never too late.
  4. You’re a rare breed. You would never ignore a girl’s text message or play with her heart to get in her pants. You’re the kind of guy girls want, so I would never wish anything but total happiness for you. You have a strength of character that I never even appreciated until it was too late (isn’t that always the case?).
  5. You’re real nice, not fake nice. You don’t have Nice Guy Syndrome (ugh, the worst). You’re actually a nice person. So I can’t wish anything bad for you, no matter how much the break-up hurt or my once-in-a-while musings if we would ever get back together.
  6. You like the simple life. You’re a country boy and I’m a city girl, and unfortunately that was part of why you didn’t want me in your life anymore. But it’s not a bad thing that you like the simple life. You didn’t dump me so you could sleep around or manipulate girls. I truly hope you figure out how to combine your calm nature with a career you care about.
  7. You taught me a lot. Not to get all cheesy but you showed me it’s possible to love someone unconditionally, and that relationships have issues but that’s okay. You also taught me that I’m stronger than I think and a break-up won’t kill me. I’m forever grateful and so I’ll always want the best for you no matter what.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.