Wanting A Guy To Be A Gentleman Doesn’t Mean I’m Not An Independent Woman

There’s a common misconception that independent women don’t appreciate gentlemen, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Honestly, strong women like me actually love men who are thoughtful and chivalrous. Here’s why I refuse to date a guy who isn’t a complete gentleman:

  1. I like a man who cares about my needs. Just because I’m a strong, independent lady doesn’t mean that I don’t want someone who cares about my needs and my problems. I want someone who’s going to care if I have a bad day at work or make me feel better when I’ve got the blues. Yes, I can take care of myself, but it’s still nice to have someone around who can take care of me from time to time too.
  2. I don’t let anyone treat me like a doormat. Of course, I would never let any guy walk all over me. But I want a guy who would never even try something like that. Other losers that I’ve dated have tried to boss me around in the past, but it never worked. A true gentleman will respect my independence and not even think about ordering me around.
  3. Gentlemen can handle my attitude. As a strong woman, I have a strong personality. It’s just the way it is and if you don’t like it, you can move on. I need a guy who can understand my attitude and appreciate it for what it is. If he can’t handle that, then he’s not a true gentleman.
  4. Not all gentlemen are pushovers. For some reason, people seem to think that gentlemen are too nice. But just because a guy is a gentleman, it doesn’t mean that he’s a spineless coward. Actually, I find gentlemen to be very firm when they want to be, but respectfully of course. I like dating guys who are gentlemen because they can stand their own ground.
  5. I want to feel wanted. I mean, doesn’t everyone? But there’s something about dating a gentleman that just makes me feel even more desired. They have a way of making women feel desired while still being respectful. A lot of guys are either creepy or completely disconnected from the women they’re “interested” in, but gentlemen know how to find that middle ground and make women feel special.
  6. As a strong woman, I need someone who can meet my standards. Independent women have high standards. And I personally know that I need a guy who can meet those standards. I want someone who meets my expectations, and it’s rare to find someone like that. I’m not a girl you settle for, I’m the whole package. And I need someone who is on my level. That’s why I tend to gravitate towards gentlemen, because they seem to have higher standards too.
  7. I don’t want another loser. Let’s just get it out there: I’m not looking to date another bum who’s living in his mom’s basement. I want a real man. And most of the gentlemen I have meet are all real men. They have real jobs, real houses, real lives. They live in the same world as I do, and they know what it means to be an adult. I’m not looking for another lame guy who can’t even provide for himself.
  8. I can still do things on my own. I definitely need my fair share of alone time. Sometimes I just want to go for a walk or go to the spa by myself because I can. A gentleman can appreciate that and accept it. He doesn’t have to be with me 24/7 or control everything that I do. I want someone that will let me live my own life as well as share it with him.
  9. I appreciate nice gestures as much as anyone does. Just because I’m independent doesn’t mean I don’t want a guy to open the door for me or wait on me from time to time. I still like it when a guy buys me flowers randomly or does something romantic. I like getting spoiled a little bit just like anyone does, and I’m happy to return the favor.
  10. Having a guy to rely on sometimes isn’t all that bad. Yes, I can do it all on my own. But I do like having someone else to help me out sometimes. It’s nice to be able to rely on someone and count on them to be there for you. It means I don’t have to carry the load or be the responsible one all of the time. It feels good to have a gentleman who has my back, and that doesn’t make me any less strong.
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