10 Easy Ways To Attract The Right Person

You don’t need to find your perfect partner to be happy, but if you’re wondering why you’re still single, it could help to remember that by focusing on yourself, you can actually attract the right person. No, really. Start doing these 10 things and you just might be pleased with the results.

  1. When you look after yourself, others will notice. I’m not talking about looking after yourself by going to the gym to get a revenge body. I’m talking about focusing on your well-being, both physical and emotional. This tells toxic people that you’re not someone who’s going to neglect herself to keep them happy. It also tells the right people that you have self-love.
  2. When you know your self-worth, you have standards. Being single doesn’t mean you’re of less value to others. That’s BS. You should remember your self-worth no matter what your relationship status says on Facebook. When you do that, you stick to your standards and attract a person who does the same. When two people with high standards find each other, the result is magic.
  3. When you love yourself, you have boundaries. It’s easy to think that you have to change your boundaries in order to find someone who wants to be with you, but that’s not healthy. You need boundaries in place so that you remain your number one priority. If you’re not backing yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? You’re just opening the door for people to take advantage of you!
  4. When you complete yourself, you’re a catch. What’s the most unattractive thing about someone on a date? When they show you that they need a relationship in order to feel their best. You’re not looking for anyone to complete you because you complete yourself. When you radiate that truth, it makes you a well-rounded, healthy, and amazing catch.
  5. When you have a fab life, you have more to give. Living an amazing life really depends on you. You’re the only one who can decide if you have one or not and how you create it for yourself. If you’re waiting for your life to begin when — and only when — you meet someone amazing to share it with, guess what? You’ll have nothing to share because you won’t have created your perfect life! By having a healthy, happy life, you’ll have so much more to give to the right person.
  6. When you don’t date out of loneliness, you’re not desperate. Everyone gets lonely from time to time, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It can be a sign that you have to reach out and connect or focus on fulfilling yourself. If you see loneliness as something to work on so you can grow instead of a hole you have to fill, you won’t date out of desperation and just waste your time.
  7. When you’re fine on your own, you’re independent. You’ve heard it before and now you’ll hear it again: you don’t need a romantic partner to make your life better. But there’s real power in realizing that. It makes you see that you can make it alone, and you don’t actually need anyone. This actually makes you more attractive because it shows that you’ve got your act together.
  8. When you have nothing to prove on social media, you’re real. Many people try to be something they’re not on social media. It usually backfires, especially in dating. The person might meet them in real life and think, “Whoa, they were so different when we were chatting on Twitter.” Anyone can be perfect from behind a computer screen, but it’s not real.
  9. When you stick to your needs, you’ll be respected. You know what you want and you know that your needs are important. This is so crucial when dating because it prevents you from ignoring your deal-breakers, those important things that prevent you from settling for the wrong person.
  10. When you don’t try to impress, you attract the right person. You shouldn’t waste your time trying to impress anyone in the dating scene. This can cause you to try to be something you’re not, such as by fitting in with what you think the guy you’re on a date with wants. But when you have confidence in who you are and you know that you don’t have to jump through hoops to get someone, you’ll attract the right person who’s on the same page as you.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.