11 Ways Being In Love Blinds You To Important Truths

There’s no better feeling than being head over heels for someone new. It’s exciting and euphoric and you never want it to end. However, being in love can also blind you to some important truths about yourself, your partner, and your relationship as a whole. Here are just some of the ways love can screw with your head – beware!

  1. You ignore red flags. You want to believe that the person you’ve started dating is a good person, which makes you turn a blind eye to all the red flags they show you, either on purpose or accidentally, such as that they’re not looking for anything serious right now.
  2. You make him the center of your world. When you make the person you’re dating your number-one priority or put him up on a pedestal, you end up giving yourself tunnel vision. He’s the only one who exists in your life and you think that’s going to make your relationship a success. In reality, it does the exact opposite.
  3. You write off their flaws. They show you that they have a horrible temper or can’t seem to commit to anything in their lives, and what do you do? You tell yourself that you’re having so much fun with them that you don’t want to kill the vibe by thinking that their flaws are serious. What’s going to happen after the Honeymoon phase?
  4. You make excuses for them. Your new boyfriend or girlfriend is always running late for dates or rude to your friends but you make excuses for them, like that they had a rough childhood or a stressful day. Ugh! Enough is enough! Whatever happened to them being respectful to you?
  5. You believe their opinions of you. It’s intoxicating when you meet someone new and they’re completely in awe of you. But whether your partner’s giving you positive or negative reviews about you, it’s dangerous to follow their opinions blindly. It can make you lose yourself. Remember, what you think about yourself is what matters the most.
  6. You think you’ll never survive without them. When you love someone so deeply, you get caught up in the relationship and you can’t imagine not having the person in your life. It’s easy to become blind to the truth that you’re a kick-ass, great woman who can handle being on her own. If the relationship came to an end, your life wouldn’t.
  7. You fear you’ll never meet someone else. You might also worry that you’ll never be able to meet someone other than your current partner. If you’re unhappy in your relationship, this type of thinking can hold you back, cause you to settle, and prevent you from chasing your own happiness.
  8. You think nothing else matters. It’s easy to make your relationship your everything, but there are other things and people in your life that matter a heck of a lot. So, don’t neglect the rest of your life because you deserve to have a full, happy life.
  9. You jump through relationship hoops. Who said you had to jump through hoops and try to impress your partner? They should love you for who you are, as you are! If you’ve convinced yourself that you have to change who you are in order to impress them, then you’re pushing yourself aside and risk losing who you are. No relationship is worth that.
  10. You don’t set limits for yourself. Healthy boundaries are a must in every relationship. If you’ve ignored them, you’re allowing your partner to walk all over you and take you for granted. You might think that not having boundaries allows you to jump into a relationship without inhibitions, but this is a recipe for disaster. It actually holds you back from getting a satisfying relationship because you’re putting your needs on the back-burner and prioritizing your partner way too much.
  11. You fool yourself about your relationship future. Your relationship might not be in a good place right now, but maybe you’re fooling yourself into thinking it has a great future. If you don’t focus on what your relationship issues are or you’re the only one trying to fix them (because your partner’s AWOL, physically or emotionally), you’re just blinding yourself to the truth of your relationship and preventing yourself from finding a relationship that will tick all your boxes.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.