10 Unusual Ways To Make Your Boyfriend Jealous, According To A Guy

For the record, I don’t agree with going out of your way to make your boyfriend jealous. It feels too much like a silly game that you shouldn’t be playing. That being said, here are some ways you can do it (or things you can avoid doing if you want to be a good, mature girlfriend).

  1. Talking to a stranger When your boyfriend sees you talking to a stranger, there’s a good chance he’ll assume that you’re flirting. I’ll admit that this is a terrible flaw that men have, but if your boyfriend doesn’t know the person you’re talking to and isn’t sure that he’s not a threat to steal you away, his thoughts will move to the worst-case scenario. This is jealousy with a side of insecurity.
  2. Having a girls’ night out This seems foolish because your boyfriend tells you not to worry when he has a guys’ night, right? That’s what makes jealousy such a funny thing. The problem is that guys have no idea what goes on during a ladies night. We assume that if you’re out, you’re either trying to meet other guys or that other guys are hitting on you. I don’t think I need to explain why this is a path to jealousy.
  3. Obsessing too much over celebrity crush OK, so we all have our celebrity “free pass” list, and sometimes it’s fun for couples to talk about them with one another. Still, you ladies need to make sure you don’t obsess over your celebrity crushes too much. If you get to the point of talking about how you want to have their babies, you’re taking things a little too far. At that point, we get a little jealous and start to feel like we’re not good enough for you.
  4. Having a guy best friend To be fair, we have no right to be jealous about this. If your best friend is a guy, he was probably your best friend long before we came into the picture. Even if we don’t see him as a romantic threat, we’re still a little jealous. To us, it just doesn’t sit right that there’s another guy out there who’s super close to our girlfriend.
  5. Posting pictures of you and other guys I really don’t think I need to explain why this will make your boyfriend jealous. Unless he’s a relative, posting a picture of you with any other guy feels like a slap in the face to your boyfriend. It may look harmless, and it may be harmless in real life, but it’s hard not to feel jealous when you’re cool posting a picture of yourself with some other guy for the whole world to see.
  6. Mentioning positive memories of your ex. It’s cool to be amicable with your ex, but you shouldn’t spend a ton of time reminiscing about the good times you spent with him. It will definitely make your boyfriend jealous to hear you talk about the fun you had with the one who came before him. Doing so will make us worry that you’re left the door open for a reunion, and that’s not a good feeling.
  7. Having any physical contact with another guy in front of us Again, it should be obvious why this would make your boyfriend jealous. Even if it’s harmless contact with your guy friends or even our friends, it doesn’t feel good to watch it. Any kind of hug or playful tap with other guys in front of us has the chance to drive us mad with jealousy.
  8. Returning texts or calls the next day This is the definition of playing games with a guy. If that’s what you’re trying to do, then this is actually a great idea. Waiting until the next day to get back to a guy will give him so much time to think about where you are, what you’re doing, and why you aren’t getting back to him. Quite frankly, it’s a little bit mean, but if you want to make your boyfriend jealous, it’s an effective move.
  9. Making vague social media posts Any vague post about your personal life will make a guy jealous. Part of the problem is that you’re putting it out there for the world to see. The other problem is that we feel like we should understand anything you post, so not knowing what you’re talking about will shake us to our core. It’ll make us both jealous and a little fearful that we’re not enough for you.
  10. Mentioning that a guy asked you out If your boyfriend is the least bit insecure, he’ll be hella jealous upon hearing this. You might think it’s flattering and funny and be able to brush it off, but your boyfriend probably won’t. It will probably make him jealous and insecure. One thing you should probably know about guys is that we don’t like competition when it comes to women. If you mention that another guy asked you out, we won’t like it. In fact, if you want to make your boyfriend jealous, you can probably just make up a story about a guy asking you out. But as a guy, I’m begging you not to do that.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.