We Broke Up But He Still Wants Me To Act Like His Girlfriend

We Broke Up But He Still Wants Me To Act Like His Girlfriend ©iStock/grki

We broke up but we’re not acting like exes. He’s still treating me like I’m his girlfriend and even though I still love him, I’m kind of sick of it.

  1. It’s time for him to let me move on. If he really doesn’t want to be with me anymore then he needs to let me go. I don’t want to stay in love with him forever when he doesn’t love me back. I deserve a man who knows he loves me and actually wants to be with me.
  2. If he doesn’t want to be with me, he needs to stop bothering me. Treating me like I’m his girlfriend makes me feel like I still am and the worst part is, I still wish I was. He can’t keep calling me every night just to talk. He shouldn’t be texting me on a daily basis. He needs to quit checking up on me and caring about what I do or who I see. My life is none of his business anymore, so he needs to just get out of my life.
  3. He broke up with me. It wasn’t the other way around, so why is he prolonging the effects of our breakup? Why can’t he seem to cut ties with me? This was his choice. I still wanted to be with him. He made his bed and now he has to lie in it—alone. He broke up with all of me, not just a part of me. He needs to stand by the decision he made because this in-between crap is just too confusing.
  4. I feel like he’s keeping me around as a backup plan. He’s keeping me close enough so that he can come crawling back but just far enough away that he can still claim his single status. If we boil it down, he’s afraid he gave up something amazing (me) and regretting it later, but that doesn’t mean he can keep me on the backburner. I deserve so much better than that.
  5. He can’t have his cake and eat it too. He can’t be single and ready to mingle and then go home and call me every night. That’s not fair to me. He either gets to be single or he gets to be in a relationship but he can’t have it both ways. He doesn’t get to have me still pining for him while he’s out with other women. If he gets to be single then so do I, and that means I don’t have any more time to waste on his sorry ass.
  6. Either he wants to be with me or he doesn’t. He needs to just make up his damn mind already. Does he love me or not? He’s so unsure of everything, but that should tell him something. If he doesn’t love me enough to be with me then he just plain doesn’t love me enough. If I was the right girl for him then he would have never stopped wanting me. He broke up with me but he didn’t end things completely, and that’s exactly what he needs to do.
  7. If he cares about me at all, he’ll stop playing these mind games. He knows that keeping me in his life is just giving me hope that we’re going to get back together. It’s not fair for him to play with my heart like this. I still love him and if he doesn’t love me then he needs to let me go so that I can move on. I don’t deserve to wonder if we’ll still end up together. I can’t stay stuck in this rut.
  8. We clearly can’t be friends. We crossed a bridge and there’s no going back. I can’t pretend like our relationship never happened and he clearly doesn’t know how to treat me as anything but his girlfriend. Maybe once upon a time we were friends but then we fell in love and spent years in a serious relationship. We can’t be just friends anymore, what we need to be is exes. In fact, that’s what we are—we just need to start acting like it.
  9. I can’t be there for him anymore. We’re not together anymore so he can’t lean on me like he used to, just like I can’t depend on him like I used to. We’re not those people for each other anymore. He apparently can’t handle life without me but that’s not my problem anymore. The truth is the single life scares him. He’s keeping me around because it’s comfortable.
  10. I want our breakup to be more than just a label. He got his single status back but other than that he still acts like I’m his girlfriend. He still gets jealous and territorial, he still calls me when he comes home at night and lets me know what he’s doing throughout the day. Our breakup doesn’t feel real because we’re not acting like exes. I don’t want to be in an “it’s complicated” kind of situation. I just want to be exes because that’s what we are.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.