We’re Clearly Into Each Other, So Why Aren’t We Dating?

If we like each other, we should be together. End of story, right? Unfortunately, it never seems to be that simple even though it should be.

  1. What’s there to think about? It should be easy. There’s often so much drama surrounding dating and love, especially in the beginning. Everyone is afraid of being vulnerable or getting in too deep too fast. Why? We know we enjoy each other’s company and want to be with each other. Why aren’t we? It shouldn’t be this complicated. It can be easy if we simply decide to be authentic and progress together.
  2. Nothing stands in our way. Sure, we can make up obstacles, but in reality, if we want to be together, we should go for it. Anything else is just us over thinking the situation. Of course there will be problems along the way and we might have some conflicts, but we’re adults. We can work around small issues if we’re committed to making it happen.
  3. We shouldn’t worry so much. It’s natural to feel some anxiety when emotions and feelings are at stake, but honestly, there’s no point in worrying ourselves to death. It’ll only put strain on everything, including the way we feel about each other. It literally does nothing to help at all. If we have stuff that’s weighing down our minds, we need to talk about it.
  4. We can make up excuses to hold off forever if we really try. It’s really easy NOT to do things. We’re all guilty of it in our daily lives, so we know that all too well. We can talk ourselves out of anything, but that would be stupid because we know we like each other. We can’t predict what’ll happen, and we don’t know that it’ll work out, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try.
  5. Fear is always the enemy. This is true in all of life, not just as it applies to relationships with other people. It holds us back from achieving our goals and gaining true happiness. Nothing good ever comes of it. We need to stop letting fear rule our emotions and tell it to shove off instead. Otherwise, we’ll always wonder what could’ve happened and we’ll never know.
  6. Life is too short to wait. We have no idea what is going to happen in the future or even what will happen tomorrow. Life is unpredictable and uncertain. We do know that we care about each other, so we should act on those feelings and decide to make a commitment to this and to each other. We definitely don’t want to live in a world of regrets and “what if”s and nostalgic sadness.
  7. We’ll never know if it’ll work if we don’t try. It sounds cheesy but it’s definitely the truth. We lose 100 percent of battles we don’t fight. There’s no surer way for our relationship to fail than by not having one in the first place! We need to get out of our heads, stop debating and start exploring together. There’s no point in hanging out in this weird dating purgatory forever.
  8. The longer we wait, the more awkward it’ll get. It’s strange not knowing exactly what’s going on. Yeah, we can be chill about it for a while, but eventually we have to make a decision. Either we’re together or we’re just wasting our time hanging out when we should both be looking for the person who actually wants to make a commitment to a relationship. It’s not going to get any better the longer we wait.
  9. We’ll begin to doubt each other’s feelings. The longer we stall on making things official, the more likely it becomes that we’ll start to worry that we don’t really like each other all that much. If we’re letting our hang-ups get in the way of our happiness, what does that say? Regardless of how we both feel deep down, what matters is how we behave towards each other. We need to either get things rolling or move on from each other.
  10. If we aren’t comfortable diving in, we definitely need to discuss things. There are bigger issues at play if we are both so reluctant to make the next move. The only way to proceed is to communicate as much as possible. If we can’t talk about our concerns, fears and thoughts, then we shouldn’t be dating anyway. We can get over this hump if we make sure that we’re both on the same page and want a similar outcome for the relationship.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.