We’re Over — The Fact That I Still Have Feelings For You Doesn’t Change That

When our relationship ended, I would’ve done anything for us to work things out and get back together again. But now that some time has passed, I realize why you and I would’ve never made it in the long run. Of course, I still have deep feelings for you and I’ll probably never stop loving you, but I’ll never get back together with you, no matter how much you seem to want it. Here’s why:

1. I’m Much Happier Without You. I thought I would never see the day when I could honestly say I was much happier without you. No more putting your feelings before my own, no more apologizing when I didn’t do anything wrong, and no more of being treated like an option. Moving on from you has made me a much happier person. It’s like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Sure, I still love you, but it’s not the romantic type of love I once felt.
2. You’re Emotionally Unavailable. You always guarded your emotions, and because of this, you made it almost impossible for us to bond and become closer as a couple. Getting back together with you means I’ll be putting myself back into a situation with someone who’s emotionally immature and unable to handle the close and fulfilling relationship I need.
3. You Can’t Give Me What I Need. When you finally admitted you never wanted to get married, I knew our relationship was doomed. Now that we’ve broken up, you’ve done a complete 180 and you’re practically dying to put a ring on it. I can’t help to think your change of heart is just a ploy to get me back into your life. If I finally break down and get back together with you, I know you’ll fall back into your old habits, and you still won’t be able to give me what I need.
4. You Were Never Serious About Me. I always felt like you had one foot out the door, and in reality, you did. I was never a top priority in your life. It seemed like everything and everyone always came first. Getting back together with you means I’ll be putting myself back into a situation where I’ll feel like you’re neither serious about me nor our relationship.
5. I Don’t Get Back With Exes. They say “an ex is an ex for a reason,” and I totally agree. Getting back together doesn’t mean our relationship will drastically change for the better. This isn’t magic — this is real life. The same problems we faced during our relationship are bound to pop back up if you and I get back together, so it’s best we go our separate ways.
6. I Won’t Allow You to Take Me for Granted Again. Now that we’re not together, you realize just how good I was to you. I was the best girlfriend you ever had, and you blew it. You took me for granted because you thought I would always be around. Now that I’m over you, I know that I can never allow you to take me for granted again, and the only way to do that is to never give you a second chance.
7. You Need to Learn from Your Mistakes. Life is about owning up to your mistakes, and this situation is something you really need to learn from. I hope that in the future, you won’t take your next girlfriend for granted. I hope you treat her with respect, say the words “I love you” freely and easily, and let her know from the jump that she’s an important part of your life. The only way you’ll learn these lessons is if I never give you a second chance.
8. I Can’t Trust You. You just up and left me right out of the blue. Going through our breakup was devastating, and now I find it hard to trust you. I thought you were loyal, and I thought you would never hurt me. When you left, I realized that I could never trust you with my heart ever again.
9. I’m Afraid of Getting Screwed Over Again. It was so easy for you to dump me the first time around, who’s to say you won’t do it again? I can’t take the chance of putting my heart on the line and getting screwed over by you once again. To protect myself and my feelings, I just have to love you from afar.
10. I’d Rather Take My Chances With Someone New. You had your chance to be with me, but you chose to end things. I already know what I’d be getting into if I gave you another chance, and honestly, I’d rather take my chances with someone new. I know that I still love you, but my love for you is not enough for me to take you back. Getting back together is like taking the easy way out, and I’m not in the mood to settle. I know I’ll always love you, but it’s time for me to move on and find someone who has everything I’m looking for.