What Do You Love More: The Relationship Or The Chase?

Men aren’t the only ones who enjoy a little game of cat and mouse when it comes to the dating world. While the general idea is that women are really to lock a guy down ASAP, that’s not true for all of us, and for many, the chase is the most enjoyable part of the dating world. Here are some signs you’re in it to win it, and not exactly looking for love.

  1. You see love as a game. Sure, it’s about finding someone you connect with, but it’s also about finding the best guy out there and making him yours — or at least making him want to be yours. You have the tendency to want to one up other women, especially when it comes to bagging hot guys.
  2. You keep records of your conquests. The more people you can have lusting over you at any given time, the better.
  3. You ditch guys left and right without warning. Last week you were in love that guy you met in yoga class, but by Monday you had kicked him to the curb with no regrets.
  4. You crush on taken guys. Maybe even more than available guys. After all, it’s the ultimate test to see if you can steal a guy from his girlfriend, or at least know for certain that you could if you wanted to.
  5. You’re in a relationship and you still flirt. Your need for attention is not even close to being satiated by just one loyal man; you want it all.
  6. It bums you out when guys are too nice. Ugh, he was totally hot until he asked for your number and wanted to walk you to your car like a gentleman or something.
  7. You’ve been called a tease. Sure, you like a good flirt like anyone else, but you think men are silly for thinking that your sitting on their lap means that anything sexual is on the table.
  8. You’ve always got your eye on multiple guys at once. You can’t help it — it’s just that the attraction phase doesn’t ever last very long before it leapfrogs to the next one.
  9. You live for the butterfly phase. The anticipation and not knowing what’s going to happen, the first kiss… Those things matter to you more than stability or longevity.
  10. You want to be both single and wanted. Taking part in the challenge gives you the opportunity to be suited and lusted after, but without having to be tied down to one guy.
  11. You love the strategic side of dating. Chasing down men often requires input from friends, Instagram stalking, and plans to run into him, so everything after that just loses a bit of its steam.
  12. You turn down most second dates. Even if you’re up to about 65 percent of liking someone, you don’t see that as enough and stop answering his texts in favor of moving on.
  13. You break hearts and don’t really care. It’s just a part of the game to you, and all is fair in love and war. Besides, guys wouldn’t think twice about doing the same to you.
  14. You detest monotony. In fact, your anticipation is usually more fun than most real accomplishments in your life — not just with men, but with everything.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com