What Happens When You Stop Listening To Your Weaker Self

It’s easy to become discouraged or disheartened when life has thrown one too many challenges your way, but you’re better than that. Don’t listen to the voices that tell you that you’re weak or that you can’t overcome your circumstances to be even greater. Instead, embrace your strength and you’ll be amazed at what happens.

  1. You’ll start falling in love with your everything. The moment you decide to let go of weakness, you start to see more of yourself as you truly are. Not only that, you start to love her, flaws and all. You realize that no matter what you do, you’ll never be a superhero and that’s okay because there’s no such thing. You fall in love with your humanity and realize you’re so much more than you ever gave yourself credit for.
  2. You stop giving a damn about other people’s opinions of you. You might have to fake it ’til you make it but once you genuinely get to a place where the only person whose feelings matter are your own, it’s an amazing feeling. Not caring whether anyone else likes you or approves of your choices affords you a freedom that can’t be matched.
  3. You’ll jump off so many cliffs, metaphorically speaking. The idea that you can actually leap into the unknown, dance with the stars and reach heights you never imagined you would is… incredible, to say the least. Only those who embrace their strengths can truly enjoy this part of life. Only those who focus on trusting their intuition can truly enjoy the exhilarating cliff-diving experience. You’ll be so grateful to experience this every single day.
  4. You’ll recognize and appreciate life as a gift. This may sound cliché but really, when was the last time you actually valued your life and everything that came with it? I know I personally spent years whining about life being unfair and tough and just too much. When you concentrate on all there is to love in the world, that changes. Steer away from the toxicity of weakness and believe me when I say you will see life in a way you never saw it before.
  5. You’ll forgive but know better afterward. Forgiveness is tricky but so important. When you embrace your strength, you suddenly find that you’re able to be more merciful to those who wrong you. However, you’re also stronger in your ability to demand the very best and in not letting anyone walk all over you. Forgiving means getting the heavy feeling off your chest and being a lot wiser than you were yesterday. See, weakness drags you into the field of unforgiving. It makes you think that when you forgive, you’re weak when in reality, it’s the opposite.
  6. You won’t beg people to stay with you This is probably one of the best parts of falling out of love with weakness. You will learn how to be strong enough to do things on your own. I know I have. I don’t care if people would stay or go. I know that people stay and go for a reason and this time, I learned I don’t have to beg for them to stay. The more I love myself, the more I value my own opinion and my own shadow. I don’t need others to make me feel safer or loved. Because I know I love myself, and most days, that’s enough.
  7. You will walk a lot of paths alone… and you’re okay with it. Weakness leads you down too many paths you don’t really want to be on but you pursue just because they fit the cookie-cutter lifestyle you’re told you should have. The more you keep going, the more you’re killing yourself. It’s such a liberating feeling when you know you can actually do whatever your heart desires, with or without the support and understanding of anyone else. You’re not doing it for them, you’re doing it for yourself, so it doesn’t really matter if you walk dim streets on your own. If you’re passionate about it, whatever it is, that’s the only thing that matters.
  8. You’ll finally understand what the tough times were for. Life throws some serious crap your way sometimes for a very important reason: to mold you into a strong, wise woman. Until you learn to fall out of love with your weaker self, you’ll forever be chained to this ridiculous idea that life hates you and the world is against you, both of which simply aren’t true. Learn to appreciate the rain and the thunderclaps. There’s magic in them too.
  9. You’ll say no without hesitation. Believe it or not, this is actually super fun. Being a yes woman can be tiring, especially when doing so comes at the expense of your own time, energy, and well-being. When you embrace your strength, you’ll realize that you can and should say no sometimes. You’re capable of listening to your heart and really following it. You don’t have to be in someone’s garden in order to call yourself a flower, and you certainly don’t have to be submissive in order to be appreciated.
  10. You’ll fall in love with your strength. It doesn’t happen overnight, but one day, you’ll realize you’re someone worth loving. You’re not just okay, you’re amazing, you’re wonderful, and you’re worth the very best.
Part-poet, part-writer, and full-blooded human megaphone of the oppressed, Tammy focuses on covering heavy topics. To keep herself sane, she also writes about pop culture, life, and anything gay. She gets by with the smell of typewriter and sound of tattoo machines.