What Is A Platonic Soulmate And How Do You Know If You’ve Found Yours?

You’ve probably heard of a romantic soulmate — the person you’re so connected to that they feel like a part of you in a way that is neither dependent nor obsessive. You might hear the word associated with other romantic ideas like “True Love” or “The One.” But it turns out there’s a non-romantic equivalent as well. Here are the signs that you’ve met your platonic soulmate.

1. You felt connected the minute you met. Sometimes you meet someone and just click. Your first conversation isn’t a brief exchange of small talk but a deep, wide-ranging discussion that might last anywhere between five minutes and three hours as far as you’re concerned. Time seems to melt away and you forget about your surroundings or the other people you should be interacting with.
2. You feel calm in their presence. You never feel like you have to maintain a conversation when you’re with your platonic soulmate. You’re either lost in a discussion or companionably quiet. Even your silences feel like communication. Whenever you’re stressed and don’t feel like seeing anyone, you’d rather be with them than be alone. Their presence is calming, just as yours is for them. When you need reassurance, all you have to do is spend time with them to feel centered again.
3. No matter how much time you spend apart, you pick up right where you left off. Even if you don’t live in the same town or talk every day, it doesn’t seem to matter. You always pick up right where you left off. It’s as if you share an ongoing conversation that takes place whether you’re talking out loud or not. Whenever you see each other, it’s like reconnecting with a part of yourself that you’d left behind.
4. You’re unfazed by each other’s “crazy.” You accept each other for who you are, without reservation or judgment. That doesn’t mean that you love every aspect of each other. In fact, sometimes you disapprove of the other’s choices and priorities. But you are not afraid to be your most vulnerable, embarrassing selves with each other. The more you learn about each other, the closer and more devoted you become.
5. Your love is unconditional. There is nothing you can tell them that will make them think less of you. They might be disappointed, but that’s only because you hold each other to a higher standard than anyone else does because you recognize each other’s potential. You trust each other and feel secure in your bond. You knew from the beginning that you would always have each other’s backs.
6. You complement each other. A soulmate is not a carbon copy of you. You don’t see yourself reflected in them. You fill in each other’s weaknesses and balance each other’s moods. One of you is calmer, more measured, maybe a little too contemplative for their own good. The other is fiery, combative, and maybe a little too impulsive. Together, you make the perfect match.
7. You finish each other’s sentences. You’re so connected with your platonic soulmate that you can practically read each other’s minds. Sometimes, you actually finish each other’s sentences. It’s not that you think about things in the same way, it’s that you recognize each other on such a deep level that you can predict how the other person is seeing any given situation. This can be annoying because you almost always know when the other person is lying or holding back, but it also makes you closer.
8. You’re brutally honest. When you know someone to their core and care deeply about them, you feel responsible for holding them to account when you think they can do better. You confront them when they’ve done something irresponsible or harmful, even when it would seem nosy or push to other people. You may not always listen to each other, but you rely on each other’s opinions to keep you honest and true to yourselves.
9. They’re the first person you turn to. In moments of crisis, they’re the first person you call. You know they’ll listen to you vent about the colleague you can’t stand or the guy who’s being hot and cold. When you need someone to celebrate with, they’re the first one to hear the news and bring champagne to your door. Whether you’re happy or sad, they’re the first person you want to hug.
10. They know exactly what you need. The hardest time to articulate your needs is usually when you need help the most. For example, when you’ve been dumped by your partner, fired from your job, or had an argument with a family member, you’re so full of emotion that you don’t have the clarity to say, “I don’t want to talk. I just want to sit here and cry while you tell me it’ll be okay.” Or, “I don’t want you to try to fix things, I just need you to listen.” Your platonic soulmate knows what to do instinctively. They know when to listen and when to give advice. They’re the first person you call because they always know what you need.

Types of soul connection: What are the differences?

If you’re lucky, you’ll experience more than one type of soul connection in your life. But what is the difference between them? Here are the most common types of soul connections and what they entail:

1. Soulmate. Your soulmate could be a friend, a romantic partner, or even a family member. Your relationship is based on a deep recognition of each other that seems to transcend time. It’s almost as if you knew each other in a past life. Your differences make you stronger. You are the yin to their yang. Whether your soulmate is a romantic or a platonic partner, all of us have one.
2. Twin flames. Twin flames are our mirror image. It is believed that you are two halves of the same soul and therefore share the same traits, good and bad. This type of relationship is rare and powerful. Your relationship is not always comfortable. Twin flames can be manipulative because they know exactly what buttons to push. But they can also be healing because they understand each other’s pain. Unlike soulmates, twin flames grow alongside each other rather than together, making each person intensely independent. Because these relationships are marked by volatility and growth, twin flames can make unhealthy romantic partners and are unlikely to stay together. Despite this, the connection lasts forever.
3. Karmic connection. Karmic connections are often mistaken for twin flames because they follow a similarly turbulent and at times painful trajectory. However, karmic relationships are more common and less intense. Your karmic partner is a person who you may have unresolved issues with from a past life. They can be romantic partners or friends, but they are often a family member (usually a parent). Karmic partners are often at odds and may even feel rage and disconnection, but the relationship exists to teach each person essential truths about themselves and facilitate necessary growth. Because they serve a specific karmic purpose, they are rarely permanent.