What Is A Sigma Male And How Do You Handle Him?

You’ve dated your fair share of guys with different personality types. Some of your exes were total doormats who lacked a backbone. Others were so bossy and controlling that you felt like you couldn’t breathe. All you want is someone relatively normal, someone who can strike a healthy balance between the two extremes. If this sounds like you, it may be time to consider dating a sigma male.

What is a sigma male?

A sigma male to some is the ideal type of guy. He’s the perfect mix of the alpha and beta male and is someone you can ultimately depend on. An alpha male is a guy who likes to be in charge and is the head of the pack. This might be attractive to some women, but it can become a turn-off if he’s too bossy or likes to be in control. A beta male is the opposite. He’s more of a follower and doesn’t like to take risks. Some women love this type of guy because he’s more laid back, and others don’t because beta males can be pushovers.

The sigma male has personality traits that fall between the two. Sigma males can be compared to lone wolves since they love independence and are exceedingly humble. They’re quite confident within themselves and can come off as a bit mysterious since they don’t feel the need to brag or be the center of attention. Sigma males make great partners since they’re sure of themselves and don’t tend to get jealous. However, they do prefer solace and silence and can be hard to understand.

What type of woman is a sigma male attracted to?

While you might want to date a sigma male, are you the type of woman this archetype prefers? Because sigma personality types are incredibly independent and self-sufficient, they want to date a woman who has those same traits. If you’re someone who’s looking for a Prince Charming to sweep her off her feet, a sigma isn’t for you. They’re less inclined to be drawn to traditional relationship values. Instead, they seek something more modern and empowered.

A sigma male finds smart, strong, independent women incredibly attractive. He wants you to have your own social group, passions, and professional goals. Because he’s always shooting for the stars, he could never be with someone who isn’t as driven as he is. You should be a proactive problem solver who’s never content with the status quo. So, if you’re someone who’s simply looking for a comfortable relationship that follows routine, you’re better off with a beta male.

How to successfully date a sigma male

  1. Plan a date. Sigma males are really laid back, so his idea of a good time might be chilling at home and watching TV with you. Instead of waiting around for him to plan something special, why don’t you do it? This will show him how much you’re interested in being with him, and sigma males will usually join in on the fun once the vibe is right.
  2. Communicate your feelings. Sigma males display high levels of emotional intelligence and awareness, but at the same time, they can’t read your mind. He might be chilling thinking everything is fine when really you have a problem. Once you communicate your feelings, your sigma male is likely to be more mindful and your overall relationship will improve.
  3. Engage in productive conversation. Sigma men are usually very intelligent and are expert observationalists and analysts. They’re quick learners and know a lot about the world around them. If you want to keep your sigma male interested, you must engage him in interesting and productive conversations that show you’re in tune with the world and have interesting opinions.
  4. Let him know what you’re not comfortable with. Some sigma males are rule breakers and bad boys. You don’t want to get caught up in the whole bad boy persona while he’s disregarding rules and the law. Your job is to express what you’re not comfortable with. If he likes you, he’ll adhere to your wishes.
  5. Let him know you’re there for him. Sigma males are used to being loners and might forget they don’t have to act that way while in a relationship. Make your presence known by checking in and paying attention to any signs of problems.
  6. Make your presence known. Sigma males are guilty of prioritizing themselves. It’s easy for you to get lost in the sauce if you don’t have a strong presence. Make your presence known through your body language and communicate directly if you don’t feel like he’s picking up on your cues.

More tips for success

  1. Be someone he can rely on. Reliability is one of the strong suits of sigma males. It’s therefore your job to reciprocate, otherwise, he may start to withdraw. Don’t flake out on him or make him feel like you’re going to judge him or doubt his plans/feelings. Be his biggest cheerleader and let him be yours.
  2. Don’t force him into the spotlight. He’s a lone wolf for a reason, let him be. Sigma males are dominant introverts and like their own space and company. However, in the right setting, he will shine through and socialize. Don’t force him out of a shell that doesn’t exist. He isn’t “just shy” and he doesn’t need your help to overcome anything.
  3. He’s naturally charismatic, so don’t let it get to your head. Sigma males are naturally charismatic and women tend to gravitate towards them. It doesn’t mean he’s being flirty. He just has an aura or a presence that many women find attractive. If he’s made it clear that he only wants you, then you have nothing to worry about. Don’t freak out when women fawn over him, because he’s unlikely to have a fit if a guy looks at you.
  4. Don’t try to pull one over on him. Just because a sigma male doesn’t really let things bother him and won’t make a big deal over small things doesn’t mean you should try to pull one over on him. It won’t work. He’s well aware of what’s happening and will be quick to retreat if he feels like the relationship is too much drama, or that you don’t take him seriously.
  5. Don’t try to change him. He’s a sigma male by nature, and you can’t change nature. You can however establish which habits you appreciate and which you aren’t a fan of. If you enter into a relationship with a sigma male with the belief that you can change who he is, don’t waste your time. You’re in the relationship for the wrong reasons.
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