What It’s Like Being a Woman Who Cries At Everything

Women can be emotional, but we all have our own way of showing those emotions. Some never cry — or at least they prefer to cry in private, where no one will see them. Others can barely turn off the waterworks most of the time, and it can become a problem. Sometimes a good cry is necessary for letting out some pent up emotions and you end up feeling a lot better afterwards. But obviously, crying has its downside, especially if it’s in public. As much as you want to, you can’t always help it, and that can be pretty frustrating. Here are some things constant criers will relate to, because the struggle is real.

  1. You’re “that girl”. If you have a hard time keeping the tears at bay, all your friends, family, and every boyfriend you’ve ever had probably know it. Not everyone is comfortable around people who are crying, but if they care about you, they’ve found a way to deal with your waterworks.
  2. Your makeup never survives. Unless you wear waterproof mascara on a daily basis just in case, you’ve probably experienced the inconvenience of raccoon eyes and a black streaky face more than once. Carrying makeup remover wipes around in your purse is a necessary evil.
  3. Your eyes get red and puffy. The term “ugly crier” is all too familiar to you. You know your entire face goes blotchy and red and your eyelids swell up like you’re having an allergic reaction, but there’s nothing you can do about it. There’s no such thing as a pretty crier anyway, right?
  4. People think you’re sad when you’re not. Sometimes it’s a heartwarming video that will have you reduced to a puddle of tears in seconds. In fact, there isn’t an emotion that hasn’t resulted in you having a good cry.
  5. The happy cry is a common occurrence. Weddings are almost always a complete write-off when it comes to your makeup. You’re just so beyond happy for the beautiful couple that you can’t help but shed a few tears for the amazing future they have ahead of them.
  6. Most movies end in tears. TV shows, too. You can count on one hand the number of Grey’s Anatomy episodes you’ve made it through without weeping. Of course you know the characters aren’t real, but that doesn’t make their situations any less heart-wrenching.
  7. Drunk crying. Lower your inhibitions and you’re even less likely to keep your tears to yourself. Almost anything could set you off, including a spilled drink, running into a friend you haven’t seen in awhile, and finding out it’s last call.
  8. Seeing someone else crying makes you cry. It doesn’t even matter if you know what they’re crying about or not, seeing someone else who could be in pain never fails to set you off. You just have this uncontrollable empathy for other people’s emotions that you couldn’t ignore even if you tried.
  9. Crying at work is not ideal. Frustration at work happens, and it isn’t exactly productive or professional to tear up every time you’re overwhelmed, or your work is criticized. Even if you manage to escape to the bathroom before the waterworks start, people are probably going to notice, and it will make you look weak.
  10. It makes you seem overly emotional. Crying so much is going to make it seem like you can’t control your emotions, and that’s something that has the potential to turn guys off, scare friends away, and be a serious detriment at work.
  11. People don’t take you seriously. Specifically at work, when you cry every time you have to talk to a co-worker or your boss about something important, they probably have a hard time taking you as seriously as you’d like. You come across as a loose cannon who can’t keep it together, and that’s definitely not the image you want to portray.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.