What It’s Like When You’re More Chill About Casual Sex Than Your Friends

Everyone has different ideas about what’s “healthy” in terms of sex and what isn’t. You, for one, are pretty relaxed when it comes to getting down and have no qualms about sharing stories from your sexcapades with your friends. They on the other hand, are not quite as comfortable with the whole thing. Here’s what it’s like when you’re more relaxed about casual sex than your friends.

  1. Your sex stories are the go-to brunch buzz. All your friends seem to live vicariously through your dating life tales and they just can’t get enough.
  2. They say things like, “But does he respect you?” Why the hell should you care? You respect yourself, and that’s why you bounced up outta that guy’s bed before the sun even started thinking about rising.
  3. People come to you for sex advice. They assume that since you’re not always locked down in a long term thing, you’ve got some tricks up your sleeve. They’re not wrong – you do, and you’re happy to share them.
  4. You’re considered the “wild” one. Even when you’re actually pretty calm and settled down in your life choices, your rebellious streak is still front and center in their minds.
  5. Your girls try to set you up with nice guys. Nice guys that are going to try and date you for a month before making a move towards the bedroom? Very subtle, ladies.
  6. You can’t figure out why other people are such prudes. It’s not that you recommend casual sex to everyone, but you don’t understand why it always has to be so serious.
  7. Some of your friends just don’t approve. No matter what, your most traditional friend is never going to see eye-to-eye with you about when sex is appropriate.
  8. You’ve had guy friends assume you’ll sleep with them. Just because they’re casual about sex, and you can be, too, they’ve assumed the option is on the table when it most definitely isn’t.
  9. You’ve heard “I told you so.” On the occasions when your feelings get involved and dragged through the dirt, your friends like to act like they saw it coming.
  10. People joke that you’re going to have a kid first. They assume that sex with more people equals more whoopsie babies, or something along those lines. It’s called birth control, people.
  11. Your friends don’t want to set you up with certain guys. You ask about a cutie from someone work and they try to avoid the subject, assuming you’ll just hit and quit it and make things awkward for everyone.
  12. You try to convince your heartbroken friends to try out a rebound. A little rebound action has worked for you plenty of times, so you know there’s at least some logic to the concept.
  13. Your friends ask if you worry about STDs. And then you explain that you’re just proactive about it and always take precautions so that you don’t have to worry about it. It’s 2015 – isn’t safe sex the norm? It is for you.
  14. People are always surprised when you’re not seeing anyone. They don’t always understand that you’re still selective, just in different ways than they are.
  15. You’ve been asked to “take one for the team”. Someone along the line has needed a favor, or maybe was trying to distract a guy for some reason, and they thought that you might be the one to be able to work it out. Gross.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com