What Life Is Really Like For A Hopeless Romantic

Being a hopeless romantic in the modern world isn’t easy. Whether your dreams of a fairy tale romance came from too many Disney movies or witnessing your parents’ loving relationship growing up, it can be jarring to join the dating world and find that these happy endings are few and far between. That doesn’t mean you should give up on finding passionate love, because it’s out there, you just have to be patient and dig a little deeper to find it. Life and love may be harder for a hopeless romantic, but you wouldn’t change it for the world.

  1. You personally connect to every romantic comedy. It’s like your life played out on screen over and over again, only with slightly better dressed women and happier endings.
  2. You know “The One” exists and you’re determined to find him. You’ve heard enough ‘love at first sight’ stories that you’re not even going to entertain any other options.
  3. You think that every guy you meet could be “The One”. You tend to get a little overexcited about first dates because this could be the real thing. Take a deep breath and stop planning your upcoming wedding together.
  4. You often end up disappointed by men. The problem with thinking that every guy is the one is that most of the time, he isn’t.
  5. Love songs make you cry. Even the cheesiest pop song speaks to your soul when it has to do with anything romantic. You probably have a few different playlists in your iTunes just waiting to be cranked when you get home from your next date. Whether it’ll be the one filled with heartbreak ballads or fast-paced songs about new romance remains to be seen.
  6. You have a hard time letting go of heartbreak. But the pain also makes you feel so alive and raw, just like the characters in your favorite Nicholas Sparks novel.
  7. Getting flowers delivered to your desk is one of your biggest dreams. You’ve thought about it happening so many times that you’re pretty certain it’s manifesting and on its way. After all, there’s no better romantic gesture than one your coworkers can see and be jealous of, right?
  8. You’re super affected by celebrity breakups. Rationally, you know that the inner details of their lives are totally unknown and might be terrible, but you prefer to idolize couples from behind your rose-colored glasses.
  9. You truly believe in happy endings and true love. How could all your friends not end up with their soul mates when they’re all such amazing people?
  10. You get bored in calm relationships. If there isn’t a burning spark or dramatic meeting, you’re just not so sure if it’s actually a thing at all.
  11. You spend a lot of time daydreaming about your perfect guy. Once you even missed a stop on the subway because you were so vividly imagining the moment that your crush realizes that he’s desperately in love with you.
  12. Sometimes you try not to be a hopeless romantic. When the dating scene gets particularly dismal, you try to get out… but it isn’t long before you’re inexplicably pulled back in.
  13. You assume the right guy will just walk right into your life. Maybe he won’t technically ring your doorbell while you just happen to be at home, looking fabulous, but you do believe he might bump into you at the grocery store, so you always go prepared.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com