What Makes A Guy Fall In Love With You? 10 Things He Looks For

It’s hard to say why people fall in love with the people they do. However, I will admit that there are certain trends when it comes to how and why men fall in love. I want to stress that this isn’t a guarantee that you can make any guy fall in love with you, but here are 10 things that most guys look for in women they are thinking of giving their hearts to.

  1. A safe space A guy will typically fall in love with someone who makes him feel safe. If all of his problems and concerns melt away whenever he’s with you, he’ll never want to leave. From there, it’s only a matter of time until he falls in love with you. For a lot of guys, there isn’t a checklist for love. It’s more just a feeling they get when they’re around you that tells them they’ve fallen for you.
  2. A great smile Yes, the sleazy part of us will be checking out your boobs and butt. Sorry about that, it’s just how we’re wired. On the bright side, a guy will absolutely fall in love with you if he can’t get enough of your smile. The same goes if we love the way you laugh. It just has to be a genuine smile and laugh— you can’t force it or fake it. As The Killers said, you must “smile like you mean it.”
  3. Kindness Love doesn’t have to be that complicated, just be nice and kind. There are so many people in this world who are mean, rude, and cynical. Sometimes a guy just wants to fall in love with someone who’s nice and pleasant to be around. If you’re kind, caring, and always in a good mood, it will be a lot easier for a guy to feel in love with you.
  4. Feeling appreciated This can’t be much of a surprise, right? Just like you ladies want to be appreciated, so do we. It’s great to be wanted and needed, but feeling appreciated is even more important. To fall in love with you, we need confirmation that you like and appreciate us for who we are.
  5. Trust Men usually aren’t that great at taking a leap of faith, which is kind of a requirement for falling in love. We need to feel like we can trust the other person and trust the relationship. Without that, you can never fully win a guy’s heart. When a guy starts to feel he can rely on you not to betray him and to always have his best interests at heart, he’ll let his guard down and be free to fall in love with you.
  6. Authenticity Guys tend to fall in love with women who are comfortable and confident with who they are. We don’t try to be something we’re not. We want the whole package and we want you to feel comfortable showing all sides of your personality. To be fair, we might be attracted to a façade or fantasy and want to go home with that woman, but when it comes to love, just be yourself.
  7. A clear idea of the Future I’ll admit this sounds a little weird and unromantic. But guys tend to have a pragmatic approach to love. Even when we first meet someone, we tend to imagine what a future with them would be like. We look for shared interests and long-term compatibility. If those things line up, it’s a lot easier for us to fall in love. If we can’t envision a future together, we’re probably not going to fall for that person.
  8. Passion Guys always seem to fall for women who are passionate or have something in their lives that drives them. It makes them interesting, as if there’s something about them that makes them special. Having a passion or purpose in life also makes it easier to envision a future with that person. We can imagine ourselves being with that woman while she pursues her passion. If a guy senses your passion and can envision a life with you pursuing that passion, he’s practically halfway to falling in love with you.
  9. The ability to make you happy I’ll admit this one is a little selfish on our part, but guys like knowing that they’re at least part of the reason that you’re happy. It feeds our egos and makes us feel like we have accomplished something. Honestly, nice guys tend to go a little overboard in feeling like they’re responsible for a woman’s happiness. It’s sometimes to fall in love with someone unless we know that we’re doing something right and can make you happy.
  10. Sexual chemistry As always, it comes back to sex in the end. I mean, can you be in love with someone without a sexual connection? To be honest, it’s not always about having the best sex of your life, but it needs to feel intimate and bring you closer together. If a guy feels that kind of connection sexually, he will fall for you so fast. Of course, even before you sleep together, a guy can usually tell if there’s any chemistry or intimacy between the two of you. It’s just a feeling we get that makes us fall in love with someone.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.