Having a significant other has its various advantages. You always have someone to cuddle with while you watch a scary movie, you’re guaranteed to never have to go to a wedding without a date, and you have someone who laughs at your dumb jokes and appreciates your quirks. But sometimes, we fall into a relationship rut because it’s easier to remain complacent than have to look for someone better. There are so many reasons not to date someone that we sometimes lose sight of the reasons we should. So what makes a guy worth dating?
- He accepts you for you. Just like you shouldn’t try to change him, he shouldn’t be trying to change you. Not only does he accept your flaws, but they make him love you even more.
- You can’t keep your hands off each other. Not that sex is everything, but it definitely counts for something. Whether you’re dating him short term or long term, the sex should be out of this world amazing. You deserve it.
- He’s there for you. His very presence should help give you strength when times are tough. Unexpected things are always going to happen, and he should be the type of guy that sticks around and knows how to support you no matter what.
- You want the same things. Even if you just want to date casually for the time being, as long as you’re both on the same page, it can be a positive relationship. Not every guy has to be your soul mate. He just has to be worth the time you do decide to give him.
- He brings out the best in you. Being with him should help you be the best version of yourself. If he brings out a side of you that’s always nagging because he can never seem to get anywhere in time, you’re going to end up eventually resenting him.
- You’re proud to be with him. When you bring him to meet your friends and family, you’re beaming from ear to ear because he’s yours. You’re never embarrassed to be seen with him, because even with his flaws, he’s perfect to you.
- You want to experience everything there is to experience with him. At least half the things on your bucket list should be things you want to do with him there. There’s nothing wrong with traveling around Europe by yourself, of course. But you just know that seeing Paris would be 100 times better if he’s holding you hand.
- You don’t need him, but you want him. You have your crap together, and you’re perfectly happy being single. Maybe you weren’t even looking for a guy in the first place, but when you met him, you knew you wanted him around, even if you didn’t need him around.
- He makes you feel safe. Beyond the basics of physical safety, he should make you feel emotionally secure as well. Being with him shouldn’t be the result of his manipulation, or a fear of what could happen if you’re not with him. When you’re together, you feel comfortable in every way possible.
- You aren’t settling. There are always reasons to stay with someone who isn’t 100% what you want. It may seem easier, but in the long run, there’s nothing easy about making a relationship work with someone you aren’t completely in love with. Look at the bigger picture, and be patient. The wrong reasons to be with someone will always come back to the surface eventually no matter how deep you try to bury them. The right reasons, on the other hand, will make your relationship even stronger.
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