What To Do When You Suddenly Want Your Guy Friend To Be Your Boyfriend

The mystery as to whether or not men and women can remain platonic friends for a certain amount of time has been an age-old question between the sexes. Is it possible to stay friends with a guy that you find attractive, can easily talk to, and hang out with all the time? Can they stay friends with you? Sometimes, feelings just come out of nowhere and it leaves us in a panic. We don’t want to lose a friend, and we don’t want to get rejected. This is what to do when you develop feelings for one of your guy friends:

  1. Wait it out a bit. Try and see if this may be just a passing phase. Maybe he looked especially handsome on a particular day and it sparked some kind of attraction. Maybe you’re desperate and are just liking the first guy that comes to mind. Or maybe it’s the real deal and you’ve developed a serious crush. But first, give it some time because it could possibly blow over.
  2. Put your friendship into perspective. Developing feelings for a guy friend that you could be entering dangerous waters. You hate to jump ahead of yourself, but you can’t help but think about how this could potentially go down. Will you ruin a perfectly good friendship, or is he maybe he’s the man of your dreams? Weigh out the consequences before you make a rash decision.
  3. Ask your other friends for a second opinion. Sometimes, your friends know you better than you know you. They’re able to give you a wake up call when you start talking like a crazy person and it never hurts to get a second opinion. They may see something you don’t see and could potentially save you from making a huge mistake.
  4. Try to find out if he feels the same way. See if you can find some clues as to whether he likes you, too. Look for a sign or pay close attention to detail during the conversations you have with him. Ask if he’s currently talking to or dating someone else before you spill the beans.
  5. Flirt a bit. Make it a little obvious that you like him as more than just a friend. Don’t turn the dial all the way up, though – be subtle and take baby steps. Actions speak louder than words, and if he’s observant enough, he may be able to pick up a hint that you actually like him.
  6. Make a move. If the right opportunity presents itself, muster up the courage and just kiss him. You can tell a lot about how you feel when you kiss someone. It could also open up a conversation that you may have been too afraid to have with him.
  7. Just tell him how you feel. If all else fails and you just can’t keep the lid closed, then just go for it and tell him how you feel. It may be a shot in the dark, but if you never try, you’ll never know. The worst thing that could happen is that he doesn’t like you back. That could probably be a bit awkward, but hey, life goes on. On the other hand, he could feel the same and it could be the start of something great. Just go for it.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns