Everyone knows it’s hard to be patient when you’re waiting for your soulmate. You feel like you’re kissing 100 frogs before you’ll ever find your perfect match, and it can seem as though you’ll be sitting around forever. But no one talks about how hard it is once you do find “The One” because as much as you want to jump into your life together, sometimes you just can’t.
There may be no such thing as love at first sight, but you can still know very quickly.
Real life isn’t like the movies, and many relationships take time to grow. But sometimes, you know very early on that they’re the person you’ve been waiting for. Maybe it’s the way you look into each other’s eyes or the way you always know what to say to each other. It’s easy to believe in fate when you can’t imagine how your world turned before this person was around.
Not everyone will understand how fast you fall.
Concerns from family and friends about you getting in over your head are a real thing, but sometimes, they are unnecessary. As long as you know you have a healthy thing growing, there’s nothing wrong with knowing soon after you meet someone that they’re going to be in your life for the long haul. But not everyone in your circles will understand it, so it may take some time before they’re all as comfortable with the idea as you are.
Age is just a number, but it’s still relevant.
Some people fall in love at an age where they can settle down right away and start to plan a future, but when it happens too early, you have no choice but to sit on it for a while. Knowing you’re with your future spouse in your teens or twenties but being years away from being able to do anything about it is a beautiful mix of wonderful and horrible.
Your phases of life might not be perfectly in sync yet.
Maybe one of you is still in school or hasn’t yet settled into a full-time job. Maybe you’re long distance with no end in sight. There are a number of circumstances that could mean you have to wait to truly be together or to commit to each other, and that can be insanely hard.
Weddings and lives together cost money.
Even when you’re finally in a place to look ahead, finances can put a serious damper on any plans. Travel, a nice wedding, an apartment and kids one day are all expensive things that require saving and preparing for years. When you and your soulmate feel ready to jump in but not financially able to do so, the longing can shake you to the core.
You’ll think about the future on a regular basis.
If you’re with the person you want to spend your life with and can’t be with them yet, you can’t seem to escape the future. Daydreams, nightdreams, doodles in a notebook – it’s like you’re back in junior high. You’ll obsess over couple names and wedding hashtags and do everything you can not to get ahead of yourself, but you’ll fail every time.
You can’t help but wonder if things will change.
No matter how perfect things may be, it’s normal to worry that someday, something’s going to have to give. Part of what’s hard about waiting for forever after you’ve found the one is feeling like if you just got your life together started, everything would continue exactly how it is. The truth is you never know what’ll happen, but you have to believe what makes you amazing now will still be amazing later.
Finding the line between optimism and realism is a fine one.
It’s easy to get ahead of yourself and start planning a wedding in your head after a few great months, or to panic assuming everything will fall apart after one fight, but neither is a good idea. As hard as it is, trying to find the balance between looking forward and living in the now is essential to developing your relationship, and not keeping it stagnant.
Seeing others take the plunge can feel like a punch in the gut.
You know deep down that everyone has a slightly different timeline, but the first time you see a friend post about an engagement in a relationship shorter than yours, you will probably want to kick and scream. Just remember that a million factors go into starting a life with someone, and you should be thrilled that you found your meant-to-be love even if you’re frustrated that you have to wait to fully jump in.
Even though you know you’ll make it through, the struggle is real.
At the end of the day, you are one of the lucky ones. You have someone who makes your whole world brighter, and makes you a better version of yourself than you ever imagined you’d become. True, it sucks that for whatever reason, you can’t start your life together just yet, but when you do, nothing else will matter. Your love story is just beginning, and if you can be a little patient, it’ll be worth the wait.
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