Here’s Why You Should Booty Call Your Boyfriend More Often

When is the last time that you booty-called your guy? Yep, you read that correctly, I said booty call, as in hitting up your boyfriend specifically for sex! If you haven’t tried it and you’re curious about why I’m such a fan of the practice, keep reading (and then give it a try).

1. If you’re in a rut, it’ll spice things up almost immediately. At some point in every long-term relationship, things start to get comfortable. Sometimes this may mean that your sex life becomes a little less spontaneous and a lot more routine. I’ve found that when the sex ruts start, the best way to get out of one is to spice things up. One way that I like to spice it up is with a good old-fashioned booty call to my guy. All it takes is a quick, late-night phone call or text at the end of my day telling him that I want to meet up with him for one reason and one reason only. It’s sexy, spontaneous, and specific and we cut right to the chase!
2. It’s hot because it’s unexpected. Think about when you’ve been booty-called or booty-called a guy you were just sleeping with. Usually, your relationship was specifically and solely sexual. You only communicated when you wanted to sleep together, and sometimes it was out of the blue. But when you got that text or sent the text to the one person who could really rock your world, you were super turned on. I think it’s totally possible to do this in your own relationship too. It’s hot because you’re probably so used to each other’s every move so switching it up a little bit makes it a little steamy.
3. If you’re curious about roleplaying, try this out. Roleplaying can be a little intimidating because it pulls you completely out of your comfort zone. If you’re interested but not really ready to do the sexy nurse and patient or Santa and Ms. Clause thing, you can always do a little FWB/booty-call roleplay. The best part? You don’t have to do that much to set it up. All you have to do is assume the role of the booty-caller and send your guy a late night “what you doin’?” text and go from there. It’s simple.
4. Being assertive isn’t intimidating, it’s totally sexy. Telling your guy to come over solely because you want him for his physical rather than his emotional support is assertive and awesome. After all, you’re a woman who knows what she wants and asserting your sexual needs should always be okay.
5. Sometimes, guys need to be reminded that you just want the D. If you’re like me you’ve probably experienced all different types of sex with your guy. You’ve had the emotional lovemaking sex, the post-fight sex, the makeup and maybe even the breakup sex, the we’re-in-a-new-relationship-so-we-screw-like-bunnies-sex, etc. But contrary to popular belief, sometimes we as women just want the regular, no frills, straight up good time sex. And some guys need to know that. There’s nothing wrong with asking your guy to meet you at your apartment for a down and dirty rendezvous sans the cuddling, post-sex nap, and conversation. You can do that later.
6. You just shouldn’t have to choose between hanging with your friends and sex with your guy. On the nights when you have committed to girls’ night out but you really want to end up in bed with your guy, booty call him! It’s totally fine. Send a late night text that says “meet me at home” so you can have your cake and eat it too. I firmly believe we shouldn’t have to choose between the finer things in life. Besides, he probably misses you anyway!
7. It might make you closer. It might foster intimacy between you guys because you’re taking something that is typically only enjoyed in strictly sexual relationships and applying it to a loving, real relationship. Plus, working on your sexual relationship is just as important as working on your emotional one. Being able to tell your guy that you need him in the physical sense is just as important as telling him that you need him in the emotional one too.
8. It’ll help you fall asleep faster. I’m pretty sure that science supports the notion that sex helps you sleep better. What better way to do that than a little late night fun between the sheets? The next time you’re working late and you leave the office at 9:30 to go home—call your guy and tell him to meet you at home. You’ll be ready to take on the world the next day!
9. It’s an easy way to put the focus on you. If you initiate the booty call to your guy, it’s another way to not so explicitly say, “Hey, I want tonight to be all about me.” It could spur a sense of duty in him so that he wants to make sure that you’re satisfied. Try it out!