Where Should Your Relationship Be After 5 Months Of Dating?

It might seem like no one knows how long you have to know each other before you officially start dating. If you’re confused about what your relationship is around the 5-month mark, here are a few things you should look out for.

  1. Your date nights start to look different. You might start out with raucous nights out and Karaoke ragers. It’s the perfect way to loosen up and relax. After 5 months of dating, you don’t need to put the same effort in to impress. It’s more about connection. You start planning game nights instead. All you need is a deck of cards and some whiskey. That’s what true commitment looks like when you’ve been dating for 5 months. You make time for each other even when it’s hard.
  2. You miss your partner more. After 5 months of dating, your work trips and girls’ trips start to hit differently. It’s no longer the same as it used to be when you were single. Now, there’s someone at home that you’re missing. After 5 months of dating, you will really start to feel the absence of your partner when you aren’t together. It’s hard, but stick it out because it shows how important you are to each other.
  3. You start to share hobbies. This can be anything from crafts to sports to cooking. For example, you might have taken up cycling, only for your partner to see how much you enjoyed it and join in themselves. After 5 months of dating, you will see that change in your relationship most clearly because you want to share your life with them rather than guard it. Plus, learning how to ride a bike again with the love of your life is pretty darn fun.
  4. You can be aimless together. After 5 months of dating, you can just be. You can walk somewhere with no destination in mind. I know it sounds less sexy, but hear me out. At the 5-month mark, you get to suggest less exciting or stylish things. You get your needs met much more effectively that way and you don’t fear their judgment. You can really develop the personal and intimate side of your relationship.
  5. You get comfortable with each other‘s shame. After 5 months of dating, you’ve seen each other at your best and worst. This means that you accept each other just as you are and you don’t try to each other. Rather than stressing about looking silly on a date, you just embrace each other’s quirks. Do a TikTok challenge. Try to paint the sunset. If you’re feeling self-conscious, take a shot before you do it. Let them see you fail occasionally. After 5 months of dating, you both deserve at least that.

More milestones you should be hitting after 5 months of dating

  1. Your communication improves after 5 months of dating. Once you are committed to making things work, you will have to negotiate some pretty serious arguments. A good way of checking if you’re in a good place is if you can get over your own pride and reconcile. Even if you can’t think of what to say at first, start with ‘hey, can we talk?’ to get the ball rolling. If you have hurt their feelings, or the other way around, acknowledge that. Ignoring the problem won’t make it go away. At 5 months of dating, you start to address the issues and move on together.
  2. You can start experimenting together. This includes the bedroom and your emotional behaviors. Growth should always be on your radar after 5 months of dating, even if it’s just trying a new position or getting a new sex toy to spice things up. But, as well as that, you should also reevaluate how to grow as a person. Experimentation demonstrates that you are comfortable being vulnerable and that you are open to change. These are essential factors when you approach 5 months of dating. If you aren’t feeling free to experiment, don’t stick around. It ain’t worth it.
  3. You can plan new holidays. This shows that you envisage your future together and that you want to make new memories. Plus, you have gone through the hard emotional work making the relationship work for 5-months – you deserve a break! This is where you get to see the fruits of your labor.
  4. After 5 months of dating, you should have met the parents. If you haven’t, they’re hiding something, or aren’t as invested in the relationship as they should be. As long as you’ve met their family – or whatever family they have a relationship with – you’re sitting pretty. Otherwise, it seems like they’re not proud of you, or don’t think you will be a long-term prospect. You should talk about that now if that’s the reality. Dating for 5 months is no small feat, so progress needs to be made here.
  5. You trust them implicitly. This ranges from them knowing your Starbucks order, filling up your tank without asking, or crying to them when things are going wrong at work. You have built up a complex and strong relationship that means you trust each other with anything. This means you can talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly without fearing judgment or rejection. That’s the gold standard after 5 months of dating.
Hannah has a Masters degree in Romantic and Victorian literature in Scotland and spends her spare time writing anything from essays to short fiction about the life and times of the frogs in her local pond! She loves musical theatre, football, anything with potatoes, and remains a firm believer that most of the problems in this world can be solved by dancing around the kitchen to ABBA. You can find her on Instagram at @_hannahvic.