Who Needs A Boyfriend? Your BFFs Are Your Real Soulmates

Who Needs A Boyfriend? Your BFFs Are Your Real Soulmates ©iStock/filadendron

It’s nice having a guy around, but there’s no man on Earth who could compare to the amazing human beings you call your friends. Your BFFs are your true soulmates, and no matter what your relationship status is, they’ve shown you that they love you just the way you are. Here’s to sisters before misters, sisters before misters, mates before dates and… besties before testes?

  1. Your friends have proven their loyalty. In a world where women are taught to constantly compete with each other, you know you’ve found a special bunch when you have found girls who will vehemently defended you. These are the people that will always stand by your side and be loyal even when you aren’t in the room. That kind of faithfulness is hard to come by and impossible to forget.
  2. You don’t need to filter what you say around them. Your girl group should be a total judgement-free zone. You should be able to voice your opinions and be completely authentic. Sure, they’ll call you out when you need it, but they aren’t going to abandon you for making a few mistakes.
  3. The memories you have together are priceless. Whether it’s weird private jokes that you all have together or a secret code that you invented when you were younger, you can all look back and laugh at all the good times you’ve had together. We might forget about some memories as we age, but the ones we share with our best friends will never go away.
  4. You can always rely on them for solid advice. They know you better than anyone else, and that’s why their advice is simply the best. Whether it’s how to deal with your terrible boss or how to avoid drama in your other friendship circles, their tips are always on point. How would you even navigate life without their wisdom?
  5. They’re just a phone call away. It doesn’t matter whether your friendship spans the globe or you live down the hall from one another — distance isn’t a factor when it comes to how much you care for each other. You know that you can call each other at any hour and talk for as long as you need to, and it won’t be a problem.
  6. You can tell them anything. Your conversations might as well be locked in a secret vault, because the trust between you is unbreakable. Your secrets will never be spread, and that’s something you should always appreciate. Everyone needs an ear to listen once in a while, and your BFFs are the perfect people to provide it.
  7. They speak the truth… even when you don’t want to hear it. If you feel as if you have to choose between your girlfriends and your boyfriend, you know something isn’t right. There’s probably a reason your friends dislike him that much. They’re protective of you, and they’ll keep your standards in check even if you’ve forgotten them yourself. You might not always agree with them, but you can always rest assured that they have your best interests at heart.
  8. They’re with you for the good times and the bad. Your friends are in it for the long haul. They won’t just be by your side when you’ve landed that big promotion or are planning your wedding; they’ll also be around when you get fired from your dream job or are going through the toughest breakup of your life. They show you the purest form of love, and you’d be foolish to let that go.
  9. They know the real you, and they love her. They’ve seen you makeup-free and hungover more times than you can count, and they don’t care what you look like. When you and all your girls hang out, sweatpants and unwashed hair are completely welcome. You don’t have to put on a pretty face for them, and they’ll still think the world of you.
  10. You’ve been through hell and back together. You’ve fought, you’ve yelled, and yet, you’re still friends. You’ve seen each other at your worst and been through situations that would have torn apart any regular friendship. The friends who survive these battles are the ones who are going to be by your side for life.
  11. They bring out the best version of you.You’re your best self when you are around them. They make you laugh so hard that you forget your troubles and worries of the week before. They have a knack for getting you to smile even on your toughest days, and you know that your life would be significantly less bright without them.
  12. They taught you what real love is. The first time you probably experienced love outside of your family was with these girls. Your friends taught you more about true companionship than a guy ever will. They showed you what it means to be committed, supportive, and loving. Most of all, they make you feel special, and that’s something you should always cherish.
Michelle Elman is a body confidence activist, certified life coach, creator of Scarred not Scared, and founder of Mindset for Life. She’s written for publications including Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post, and Grazia and appeared on ITV’s “This Morning,” Sky News, Loose Women, and more. She’s also the author of the book “How To Say No.” You can follow Michelle on Instagram at @michelleelman, on Twitter @michelleelman, or on her website, MichelleElman.com.