Okay, so things didn’t work out between you romantically. It sucks, but it happens. In your mind, you’ve taken it well. You didn’t beg him to stay or try to change his mind. You’re not badmouthing him to your friends or writing angsty Instagram posts about him. In fact, you’ve pretty much moved on. So, why did he block you on everything?
How guys handle breakups
- They compartmentalize. After a relationship ends, many guys don’t want to deal with the emotional aftermath. To avoid doing so, they compartmentalize their feelings and put them in a box. It’s not that they don’t exist anymore, it’s that by shoving them down deep enough, some guys think they can avoid the pain and heartbreak after a split. Sadly, this carries forward as relationship baggage and comes back to haunt them in the end.
- They pretend they don’t care. Have you ever broken up with a guy you were with for quite a while, only for him to act like he’s not at all bothered by your relationship ending? A lot of guys don’t like showing they’re upset or bothered about anything, so they just act like they’re not. They pretend like nothing affects them emotionally and can come off quite heartless as a result. Don’t be fooled — deep down, they’re struggling.
- They go out and get drunk with their friends. Out of sight, out of mind is one thing. However, they need extra assurance that they won’t be reminded of unpleasant memories, so they need to get drunk. Guys fresh off a breakup will often go out two or three nights a week or more just to get wasted and forget about their problems.
- They get angry and sometimes vindictive. This is more common than you might think. When guys are hurt, they often prefer to turn that pain into anger instead. This means they may lash out at you or others around them or become vengeful or vindictive. It’s unpleasant to be on the receiving end of this and if it does happen with an ex, avoid him completely.
Why did he block you on everything?
- It hurt too much to have you on his feeds. He cared about you. That means no matter how much he pretends otherwise, deep down, he’s hurting. Seeing your latest Instagram selfies and reading your hilarious tweets reminds him of what it’s like not to be with you anymore. By choosing to block you on everything, he can stifle that pain just slightly.
- He blames you for the relationship going wrong. Why did your relationship end? The answer to that question might offer some insight on how he feels now that it’s over. That’s not to say that him blaming you means you’re at fault. That being said, if he’s angry and needs to put fault at someone’s feet, you’re as good as anyone.
- He’s already seeing someone else. It’s possible that he decided to block you on everything because he’s in a new relationship. In that case, his new girlfriend might not take too well to him being in regular contact with his ex. She probably won’t even want him following you. It’s petty and immature, but it happens a lot.
- The relationship was toxic and he doesn’t want to be tempted to go back to it. Even if he still has feelings for you, if your relationship was toxic and unhappy, he doesn’t want a reunion. By cutting off his available ways to get in touch with you and vice versa, he’s protecting himself. At least that’s how he sees it.
Or, it could be that…
- You didn’t take the breakup as well as you thought you did. You might think you played it cool ever since the split, but maybe he doesn’t see it that way. If he feels like you’re desperate to get back together or that you want to get revenge on him for some wrongdoing, it’s no wonder he wants to steer clear of you.
- He feels guilty and doesn’t want to deal with his feelings. If he cheated on you, lied, or did something else to ruin the relationship, he probably feels bad. As he should. As a result, he might decide to block you on everything because he doesn’t want to own up to what he did wrong. He doesn’t want you to call him on his behavior or hold him responsible. The relationship is over so he wants to leave the past in the past.
- He doesn’t see a point in staying in touch. You’re not right for each other and it’s over. It’s too awkward to stay friends, so why should you stay in touch? In this case, blocking you isn’t personal, it’s just logical. Of course, that doesn’t make it hurt any less.
What to do when you’ve been blocked
- Block him right back. This is the most obvious response. If he doesn’t want to talk to you or thinks it’s a bad idea, it probably is. You know it, so act on it. Block him back so that when he changes his mind and decides it’s cool to get in touch again, he can’t. Everything isn’t all on his terms, and he needs to know that.
- Don’t try to get in touch. When a guy chooses to block you on everything, you might be tempted to get in touch in other ways. Maybe you ask his friends to pass him a message or you try to email him or something. Don’t! This makes you look desperate. In addition, you appear disrespectful because you’re trying to circumvent his wishes to be left alone. Don’t do it to yourself.
- Focus on yourself and forget about him completely. This is what it’s really all about. Your sun doesn’t rise and set based on this guy’s presence (or lack thereof) in your life. Focus on yourself and live your best life. You’ve got this.
